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writes:Hi everyone,I'm 18 years old and starting University in a few weeks. My boyfriend lives in Leeds (England) and I am going to Uni quite far from there, but that isn't a problem for either of us. He's not going to college because he's got other plans.The problem is his friends basically. They're making him incredibly insecure about these things. They keep making him think that I'm going to break his heart and cheat on him. They say they're just "looking out for him" and they don't want to see him "get hurt" but this is hurting our relationship anyway!I will not deny the fact that at Uni, I may meet someone else. Fine. He may meet someone else too. What I can GUARANTEE is that I will never cheat on him and never try to hurt him. Yet his friends are putting all these ridiculous thoughts into his head and making him feel really uneasy about being away from me.I can't speak to his friends directly and tell them to shut their bloody mouths about it, so instead I have to find ways to make my boyfriend feel more comfortable and less nervous. Is there anything I can say?
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reader, auntyluuurve +, writes (16 August 2007):
 u need to PROVE to ur boyfriend and his mates if u care what they think that ur not gonna cheat. i.e. come home every weekend for a while, or invite him to visit all the time and be very open. screw the friends, they are mean. just remember its u and ur boyfriend in the relationship not u ur boyfriend and his friends. also, tell him if he really trusts his friends over u then he doesnt trust you, and u cant have a relationship really without trust, its just a farce.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (16 August 2007):
 You can tell his mates to shut their mouths hun if they are saying nasty stuff. Or get your guy to do it.
I had an ex of mine try to cause problems with my current guy. He was telling my partner I did all these things and slept with so many people behind his back. I had only been with my partner a short time and he ended up not trusting me. That took a LONG time to get back.
You and your guy NEED to talk about this and get an understanding that it's just his mates being idiots. Otherwise you are goingt o go away and his mates will still fill his head with crap and the relationship will be doomed.
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