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writes: This guy is confusing me soo much. I care about him but I don't want him to see me as one of the guys.Well I've known him for three years now, and we've always been kind of friends but with hints of something more. He gets jealous when I bring up other guys, on occasion, like my one friend who's older than us but is just normally flirtatious. He tries to show off for me because we're both on the archery team.Well the first year I saw him a lot for the first half, through which all my friends thought we were already a thing, then once or twice in the second half. The next year he had all but disappeared when I had a boyfriend, who turned out to be one of his friends, whoops!That ended sadly, because he had to move and he believed I could find happiness and shouldn't have to wait for him to move back in four years. He wants to try and see if it can work when he comes back, if I'm up for it. Then this guy reappeared in my life by being part of my English class when I was missing my ex. He helped me get over it and accept what happened. He was a gentlemen and very kind to me.According to my two best friends who I trust with my life, wrong have been through a lot, including near death experiences, and basically they said he clearly had feelings for me and missed me much more then he'd like to show when I was away.Well he's now everywhere I look! He sits with me at lunch, we spend a lot of time alone together lately. This should all be clear signs but the frustrating part is that sometimes he's very warm, other times he is distant, and at other times he makes me feel angry and he does some hurtful things, though he tries to make up for it.He's indecisive and its driving me nuts, not to mention he made me look like an idiot slob today. I was fixing a thing with both my hands required for this task and he shoved 2 slices of greasy pizza in my mouth and I couldn't let go unless I wanted my fingers crushed. I had to stand there as pizza grease covered my face and ran down my chin along with saliva until I managed to finish and grab the pizza and throw it away. The whole time he was laughing it off ithe corner while I wiped the smutz from my face, furious. He tried to apologize and managed to convince me to forgive him for that and insulting my baking skills, which he loves.I managed to regain whatever dignity I lost during the affair and was doing my thing with him beside me, teasing me, being mildly irritating in his adorable way.Well then we were asked if we were dating, this is like the third or fourth time its happened. He just looks at me, then down, says no, and gets all defensive. He shuts down and goes off to be alone for a while.I don't know what to think or do? After that we gave him a ride home and he was flirtatious at first and then got very quiet I'm tired of the back and forth. I want to know how I can get him to give me a straight answer about "us", what our relationship really is, and why is he so bipolar in his actions towards me? I've always done my best to be affectionate, send him as clear signals possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate, he's started going for my friend as well as me a little while back. I'm a little sad, but not as sad as I thought I'd be. I have more problems in my life other than a guy who wants the both of us at the same time. I also pity him a little because my best friend doesn't like guys, especially not him because she wants to slap him half the time. She only tolerates his presence because I'm her friend and because he "isn't a complete moron" and "is decent sometimes, but annoying a lot of the time".
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reader, xxxnattybumxxx  +, writes (15 January 2013):
just tell him how you feel about him and ask him how he feels about you..if the answer is good then ask him where you stand with him..because you're not a little girl anymore and you don't want to play around..suggest a date at the movies or something..see how that goes! Good luck x
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