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writes:I am coming to social media rather late in life and am confused by the protocols that seem to liberally litter posts with kisses and hearts. So when my girlfriend posts a pic of an event she attended where I wasn't present and someone responds "...great to see you again looking as beautiful as ever xxx" is that just what people say or has that crossed a boundary of inappropriateness? Or am I just being crassly controlling? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 February 2017):
 Ah welcome to the world off the internet. Social media has destroyed many relationships. Don't let it damage yours. Do you trust your girlfriend? If you do then it shouldn't matter if other people are giving her compliments. In fact it is great that people are being complimentary. When it starts getting flirty then yes you should question it. But xxx in social media really does not mean flirting it is mostly just a habit people have got in to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2017): Unfortunately; there are few rules in posting on social media.
Generally, if you find something inappropriate or offensive you can delete or hide it. You aren't required to comment or critique each and every pic or posting you receive. That will be a full-time editing job, and it will drive you nuts. People literally post a constant flow of junk and total nonsense. They think their lives require publishing around the clock, but complain about the lack of privacy. Go figure?!!
You can't stop people from saying whatever they want about you, on social media or in real-time. People gossip and tattle all day long, and you can't keep track of talk. So, you address issues in-person when necessity requires it. Kick people off your time-line you don't particularly care for, and push delete as often as you like!
Don't take social media too seriously, unless you are illegally slandered, or highly personal information is published without your permission.
Some folks are pretty stupid and have no filters. You kick them off as soon as you catch them, and save the post as legal proof if legal-action is warranted. That's very rare, and everything that annoys you doesn't warrant big-time action. Social media is not for oversensitive or thin-skinned people.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 February 2017):
 Everything on Social Media has to be taken with a grain of salt. Just like emails/texts, things people say can be totally misconstrued and even have resulted in tragedy. People who get so wrapped up in Social Media will eventually lose some common sense and perspective. It can be fun to see what friends and family are up to but that tongue best be firmly implanted in one's cheek.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 February 2017):
 I think you need to NOT read too much into Facebook comments. Honestly? I think you are WAY overthinking the comment and you need to not try and micromanage your GF or her social media.
What is so bad in her getting a compliment? And since when is it YOUR job to decide who can give her a compliment and who can't? You don't own her, OP.
Maybe instead of being petty and upset over it - you could post a compliment of your own.
Some people seem to think that Social media is a way of one-up others, me personally? I think Social media is way overrated and downright ridiculous 90% of the time.
Some people like to be a little over the top with compliments or describing events. As in, EVERYTHING looks a little "better" on Social media than what reality is.
For me, if someone commented something like that ("great to see you again looking as beautiful as ever xxx") on my husband's FB/Social media I sincerely wouldn't give a flying fart. Because I am in a marriage with mutual trust and respect. And if someone thought my partner look beautiful I'd agree. Not get pissy.
And I ALSO know that I can not (nor can my husband) CONTROL what other people write on various posts.
My step-son recently posted a "you are a dick" to my husband's page - because? Well, my step-son wanted us to buy him a car and my husband thinks that his son (who is 28) is OLD enough to buy his own car, so he said no.
My husband CAN NOT control what his son chooses to write. He can, however, hide his son's feeds and comments if he wants, but he has chosen not to.
Just relax, OP - it's Social media...
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (20 February 2017):
 That seems perfectly fine, as long as it's not frequent flirting.
Don't let social media cause problems in your relationship.
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