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writes: Last night for the first time me and this girl were talking on a personal level and we really got close to each other, so we decided to be best friends. But my question is this... if we are best friends I will need to see her more. She lives pretty close to me so where can I ask her to come and hang out? And how will I know if she does actually trust me to be a best friend? I know that we maybe aren't quite best friends, but how can I know for sure when we are?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2006): Wow I must say and furthest from being sarcastic, that I never knew this is how people make 'best' friends. I always wondered about that - especially with a lot of the problems associated to best friends here on DC. What I mean is that I always thought that however close you are to your friend(s), is all an unsaid natural phenomena, rather than a verbal designation.
Anyway, as Bridget has mentioned, you should just relax and make sure you don't try too hard. Friendship as I said above, should be a natural happening. Like intimate relationships, friendship cannot be forced into compatibility.
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reader, bridget +, writes (29 May 2006):
 Hey there anon...
I think you should give yourself a break and calm down a bit you are getting all panicky and worried over what this girl will think of you and she already must think that you are a pretty cool guy..
I think that if you had a friendship in a girl it is cool lots of people have different friendships and to have a girl pal it kinda takes the strain of relationships aswell.
As you can have her point of view..
You dont necesarilly need to see her more it depends on what level your friendship is on and how strong it is.. If you want to hang around and you feel comfortable with her then you would understandably want to see her more..
My advice to you would be just to relax and take things as they come your way...
Best Wishes
Jacqueline
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