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anonymous
writes:Have been with my partner for 14 years - have 3 kids and are engaged to be married. We have always had quite q bit of stress and 2 years ago I suffered quite a major depression for 3 months. We were back on track although had started to drift in some areas - not enough time for each other and money worries - the usual. We were together with friends for a couple of nights and on the second night I walked in on them kissing passionately. After much 'it's not what you think' discovered that they had been together for a few months, planning hotel stays etc. 2 weeks later I am assured it's over - there has been a couple of calls since but as far as I know it has ended. This has destroyed my confidence and although she says she still loves me and wants to give me first chance to save what we have, I am aware that she is trying as hard as possible to make it work against her feelings - she has said she is in love with the other man. We still hug but anything else feels very 'forced' - from me as well. I suppose I am bracing myself for more bad news and am not convinced that the decision has really been hers to make. Also I am very paranoid if I send her a text I rarely get a reply but don't want to create a self-fullfilling prophecy. I know this will take time and I love her very much and can forgive. Has anyone had the same sort of thing and it's actually worked out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): My guy,in this situation its not worth working out. She isnt loyal. You are now faced with a life with a woman who goes elsewhere any time something goes wrong. She doesnt,cant and isnt capable of loving you. It will repeat itself with the other guy once the butterflies stop and someone else pays her compliments. You suffered from depression then she does that? U r 2 soft and begging for further punishment. Its over,she doesnt care as long as she`s ok. Get out of ur horrible situation. It wont go away,it will get worse. She`s not worth it. Love urself because she doesnt. I believe by the sound of it, that she is using you to fall back on.
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