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writes:My boyfriend asked me for some space three months ago, but stupid me kept phoning and texting telling him how much I loved and cared for him. A week later he dumped me and said he'd met someone else and changed his cell number. I know he had problems/stresses at the time, money, work etc but I thought I could be there for him no matter what. he obviously didn't want my support at that time even though he knew how much I cared for him. Missing him like crazy I phoned him Friday on his work number which I have never done in the past. I was determined to tell him how much I missed him and still loved him, I suppose it was my last shot. We talked for nearly an hour, he said he was going away for a few days, but he would email me soon. What are the chances do you think of us getting back together? The fact he spoke to me for nearly an hour, was this just out of courtesy or do you think he still cares? Do you think I should get my hopes up? it's killing me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): Girlfriend, we are in the same boat. I met a very nice man on the internet, we got to meet and we got along so well. I hadn't had so much fun with a man in a long time. We seemed so happy. I wasn't interested in marriage again (twice already), but he felt under pressure. I realized why men keep dumping me after I read the book called "woman who love too much" by Robin Norwood, you will find it in any decent bookshop.. What an eye opener it was for me, I am so used to doing the chasing and I am always looking for the problem within myself and never seem to get the message when men dump me. I try and try and try until I eventually give up out of pure exhaustion.Sad but true, men like that don't easily change their minds because they are so confused themselves, and they really battle to find true happiness because they feel the need to move on as soon as they feel stuck in a corner.Get the book, it really changed my view on myself and my relationships. It will make you understand why you are hurting and why you attract men that hurt you. There is no such thing as "SPACE". Just remember you are not alone, there are thousands of hearts shattered daily by men. Thinking of you sister, you will understand once you've read the book.Another broken heart
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): I know exactly how you feel!! I was in the same position about six months ago. My ex started seeing another girl, and when i found out she had left the country, i wasted no time. I started callling him, aranged to see him again. He just broke my heart again.Don't let the same happen to you. It hurts too much to sit and wait and wonder. Move on. If you are meant to be together, you will be. Just don't sit around waiting for him. I did. I realise now how pathetic i was, and how much precious time i wasted.
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reader, 04jrees +, writes (3 June 2007):
 hunni, please dont let you get yourself in this much of a state about someone like that. Im sorry but he sounds like he just pulled away from you witout any explanation. And thast just isnt right or fair. Dont go chasing someone like that. He says he met someone else - how do you know he hadnt already met her while you were going out? and the fact that he changed his number when all you were doing was trying to help him like a loving girlfriend or friend would. I think he didnt want to hurt you because he still cares for you but on a friends only level now for whatever reason. this is what you need to find out from him purly for closure. He still cares for you and maye felt guilty for what he did so he talked to you to make sure he didnt hurt you aas a person too much. I dont think you should wait around for someone who just ignors and doesnt see what a great helpful girlfriend he already has and if there is a good reason then he should at least have had the decency to sit you down and talk to you first. I think he was very frustrated and wanted some space when he changed his number. his head was probably filled with alot and you wer closing in and pressuring him alot which tipped him over the egde. To be honest i think he still would have met the other girl anyway weather you had done that or not. Find closure, move on and find someone who you deserve. hop[e this helped :) xx J xx
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reader, DV1  +, writes (3 June 2007):
 It sounds like it was friendly courtesy. He probably realized how bad he looked by dumping you the way he did, and tried to be a bigger person. Your best bet is to try really hard to move on. In time, I promise, you'll be ok. :)
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reader, flower girl +, writes (3 June 2007):
 Plaesedo not get your hopes up, which i know myself through past experience is going to be very hard not to do especially after the phone call you have just had, i know it will be hard but you have made it clear to him how you feel now i would just back off and see if he says what he was going to do and call you when he returns if he does not then i think it might be time to move on and except it is over between you.
Take care.xx.
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