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writes:I hear a lot about the negative side of sex and bad things that could happen from having sex. What are some of the benefits of having sex? What are some of the positive outcomes that would/could result in having sex with my boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 August 2013):
 Funny, I've almost never heard of any BAD things that can come from sex? Of course, there's STI's, but if you get tested and wear protection then sex isn't something you should be scared of having. Maybe it's the conservative anti premarital sex people who are running about and scaring you?
Sex is great. It feels amazing. It gives you a high, a happy feeling, a feeling of being content, blissful. It brings you close, very close, as close as two people possibly can be. And when there is love, you feel it intensified, in every bone in your body, in every vein. The love, the closeness, the happiness, it just flows through you.
Okay, maybe I'm having exceptionally great sex, but I believe everyone can have amazing sex when they're with the right person.
It's like taking a drug that's actually good for you, and doesn't give you a bad hangover... It's great against headaches and if you are tense it loosens you up right away.
What negative things have you heard about sex!?! There's absolutely nothing bad about it at all, as long as both people involved want to do it, are above the age of consent, and use protection (unless you're trying for a baby).
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (6 August 2013):
Mostly it's immediate pleasure (hopefully), but it really does bring you closer together if you're in love or falling in love.
Plus, babies can be a bonus if that's your thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2013): You're young and searching for someone to say "go-ahead and do it."
First, consider if the boy really cares about you and respects you. Would he stick around, if you didn't have sex?
Does he know about safe-sex? What would he do, if the condom broke and you got pregnant?
Has he been your boyfriend for a few days, weeks, or months?
The longer he has been with you before sex, tells you how much he really likes you. The longer he stays with you after you have sex, means he loves you.
Fatherly Advice offered you many of the good things about having sex.
Now, let me tell you some other good things.
It's wonderful when you know he'll still be your boyfriend when six months or more is past; and he isn't looking at the next girl.
Sex is fantastic, when he is tender and affectionate to you before and after, and doesn't leave you lying on the floor with your skirt up over your head, or jeans around your ankles.
Sex is beautiful if he can provide a romantic and wonderful place to "make-love." Other than the the backseat of his car (someone's borrowed car), or on the creepy stained-sofa in his uncle's musty old basement.
Sex is good when he respects you enough to stop, if you decide to say "no;" even if you've already started.
It's great, when he doesn't tell every boy he knows you did it, and respects how you feel about that. That he remembers having sex with you is a gift, and that it isn't there every-time he wants it.
If you've already done it by now, and you didn't find it all that great. You don't have to do it anymore, if you don't want to. If he doesn't like that, too bad!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (5 August 2013):
 I think this is a very good question, and deserves an honest response. Generally I believe in sex only within long term committed relationships. So I wouldn't advise you to be jumping in too soon, but often sex gets such a bad rap that I think that the positive aspects of sex should be explored. I think that most people will agree that sex is a good thing. So is Fire. Like Fire Sex in the wrong setting can be dangerous. Also like Fire Sex in the right setting can be very useful.
So making the assumption of proper education, safety, and emotional maturity of the relationship[and the participants, here are some benefits of sexual intercourse. Endorphin release, Sex makes you feel good, it can also be quite relaxing. Exercise, Sex gets your pulse rate up and helps to improve blood flow. I need to stress that there are a lot of more effective forms of exercise. Increased intimacy, Sexual intimacy helps emotional and financial intimacy. To put it in other words you will be closer as a couple. Fun, Sex is the game that adults play together, no winners, no losers just fun for both.
That's a good list of the basics, I look forward to what others see ans benefits.
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