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writes:my boyfriend and i have been together 5 months, we started living together when we had only been dating 1 month. he moved out in the middle of july and moved in with one of his close friends (a guy) he said that we fought to much living together. any way we have had some problems. we broke up july 15 then he moved out and we got back together 2 weeks ago. since he moved out we barley get to see each other he work almost every day he works from 11-7am somedays he works 12 hour shifts and sometimes he works 16 hour shift. sometimes he says to tired and somedays he says he's busy. which hes busy all the time now. any way he never texts me first anymore. i always have to be the one to text him. my friends say that i have been way to clingy by texting him all the time, when he doesnt text back i text him over and over until he finally texts me back. could the reason why he doesn't text first is because i never give him time to text first. i always text him when i wake up. but today i haven't texted him at all. is he just getting tired of me and don't love me anymore or whats going on?its aggravating that i never see him cause hes either tired or has other stuff to do. i keep listening to some of my friends when they say he doesnt love me cause if he did he would make time for me no matter what when i ask him to see me or stay the night he always says he will try but it never happens.. any idea on whats going on?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 August 2013):
 You write: "....any idea on whats going on?"
Yep. He isn't much in to you.... and your wasting your time pursuing him.....
Move on with your life, and chalk this up to an affair/ relationship that ain't gonna happen!!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 August 2013):
 You guys really jumped ship in the beginning by moving in together. That doesn't work, and all of a sudden he has no time to talk to you. I imagine he had time to spend with you when you two were living together?
Texting him nonstop until he texts you, is excessive. I'd stop that bad habit. No person wants to be badgered like that; you're pushing him away.
The answer is in front of you, and your friends have been pretty vocal about it....yes, this relationship is losing it's luster. In fact, it didn't get any shine back when you two got back together.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (6 August 2013):
Seems like before you are rushing things again. It does seem like your friends are right and you are being too clingy. And that sort of behaviour only pushes someone away. Give it some time but if he still doesn't seem interested then you should just break up and find someone who will be interested. All the best, next time try not to rush into living with someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2013):
He should be man enough to let you know if the relationship is over.. I mean, he's giving you all the signal but no closure..
Here my advice, don't text him all this week. ( unless he texts you. Keep him guessing ) then Sunday text at lunchtime.. With hey stranger, can you come help me find my head?! Haha I think I've left it in the bar last night . What a night danced until my feet ached.. Lol bril night. How you btw? . Keep it light see what he's responds to that.
If he wishie washy , text look I've been thinking mane we went into this too quick and I enjoyed actually getting attention last night.. I mean what girl doesn't right.. But you don't seem to have the time for me any longer so I guess maybe we should just move on .
And hey do just that.. Don't waste your time over some ' I don't know what I want dude' go out and get the guy who will walk over burning coals dead tired because he knows your one in a million..
You are not clingy.. You just want human contact from someone whom you have been led to believe cares for you.. It is normal to want communication reciprocated .
Don't be a fool though, let him go.. If he can't see how special you are and caring . He is not worthy of your time and effort.
Take care.. Keep us posted.. We care!!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2013): To put it simple if a guy is interested in being with you, he will be doesn't matter if he's tired or busy. When myself and boyfriend first got together
He'd work go to the gym war dinner come get me and we'd go out together dropping me off back home and then driving himself an hour back to his place. He'd sleep for 6 hours and then get up for work and do it all over again. I think he's maybe trying to distance himself from you.. You should do the same as well, start seeing other peolpe, hanging out with girlfriends it is no fun being in a relationship with someone that isn't interested in being with you or spending time together, doesn't matter if he'd tired if he wanted to he would.
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