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writes:HiWould appreciate anyone's opinion on this!I have been single for about a year and eight months now.Although I have had some interest from guys during that time, I haven't been interested in THEM.Whilst talking to someone in the last few days, I was told that I will never meet someone/settle down because I never go out to meet anyone!I was shocked by this because I go out regularly - doing the things I enjoy - watching racing, football, going shopping, clubbing, etc (although the clubbing is usually a once-a-month thing because it costs so much!I never go out 'looking for a guy'. Should I be looking out for a guy every time I'm out or should I just carry on with what I am already doing - enjoying myself, instead of hoping I am going to meet 'the one'- and just wait for the guy to find me? With previous boyfriends, I was not looking for a guy before I met them. They were a complete surprise! I really do not know what to do now. I was so happy until all this was said to me, now I feel a bit miserable - what am I doing that is so wrong? My method has worked before where meeting guys and going out with them is concerned - why won't it work now?
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reader, Laurenx, +, writes (6 August 2007):
Don't worry. You're not alone. There are many people who feel exactly the same as you. If you're still not up for a relationship at this precise time, that's completely fine. Don't ever feel you should go out with someone because you feel desperate. But if you are trying to look for someone, then yes, you're doing the right thing by going out and having a good time. If no guys approach you, maybe you should approach the ones you ARE interested in.
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