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writes:I was supsecting my boyfriend was somewhere else...i snooped on him and found evidence that sugessted he wasn't telling the truth. I then asked a male friend to call his ex and ask for him - he wasn't there and the evidence i had was wrong. it was obvious i was behind the call...He called me the next day and abused me..i denied at first but then through sms as he wouldn't answer a follow up call i admitted i acted out of insecurities (believe me he has given me reasons) I said i was sorry and that i feel very bad that i invaded his privacy..I do i win back his heart...i do know he wants to talk...but i am afraid that he wil break up with me over it...yes i was very stupid and immature
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I called him at the office to get his mobile no as i fotgot mine at home a colleague said he was on leave - this made me suspicious. I then called her office and she was on leave for exactly the same days. I was distant on the phone to him when he called sporadically. last friday night i called he house she was home - a male friend wound me up and said why don't i call and ask for him i will say i am his best friend. Turns out he was on a business trip...now i am the fool
he sent me an sms on sunday saying a flat 'don't worry' but no word since which is making me very anxious he gets back today.
I am just going to put my cards on the table saying i can't change what happened and i regret it i had no right but i can change the present and deal with my trust issues. My ex husband was unfaithful to me on business trips i guess maybe that's why i flipped so badly.
BTW he was with his ex for 16 years she was a lot older than he i think 18 years...he has a soft spot for her and says he doesn't want to hurt her as she is now 56...
I am feeling very down about all of this and how i managed to make such a mess of it
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Ouch!!!!,where did he say he was going? Hopefully he may have an innocent explaination as to where he was, maybe there had been a change in plan for his destination so instead of being at place A he was at place B.
What made you suspicious in the first place? And what reason did he give you in the past to arouse them? Did he cheat on his past girlfriends? Send him an email explaining your actions, say you would like a heart to heart talk with him. When he does respond, tell him calmly as to why you was questioning his actions and why you feel insecure. Hopefully he will be man enough to offer you a reasonable explaination. Relationships should be built on trust, if you don't have that, then maybe you should get out before he really hurts you. You would not want that would you Good luck hun and tell me all about it once you have had a talk with him. Rose x
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