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*uckycloud
writes:Hi there, It's been a long time since I was here. You all were great help. So now I'm back with a question for my friend.My friends have been in a relationship for 5 years. Mostly they are in Long Distance Relationship, since the boy went to study abroad. They started their relationship in the final grade of high school. And he soon left for Uni.During almost 4 years he came back only twice, including this time. And he never even hugged the girl, while she's craving for his hugs and kisses. She thinks he should be really want to do those loving things. She hopes and expects, but tonight it still didnt happen.They rarely touch and hold hands. No hugs or kisses.Here's the question: What's the problem with this boy? Any explanation would help, because the girl is going crazy. Thanks a lot!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 May 2013):
 just because you talk about getting married or settling down does NOT make it love.
in your 20s a 5 year LDR is a time waster.
by now it should be known where you are going to live and they should be making plans to END the distance if they are serious about this relationship. I sense SHE is but he is NOT.
IF he has come to see her twice in four years, it's not a relationship. he does not hug her or kiss her, he's NOT her boyfriend.
He's using her to avoid real life and she's hoping he's not lying.
it's time for her to see the light and end this charade.
there is nothing wrong with him other than he's not that into her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): She's been continuing with this passionless "relationship" all this time? Any girl would go crazy! There doesn't seem to be any point in living a passionless life like this; it just seems to me she's holding on to just a friendship; She wants intimacy that is difficult in long term relationships as it is, but impossible to get from this guy! It sounds like the relationship is just dead, there doesn't seem to be any feelings of affection or passion for one another. And does she know of anything of what he gets up to all that way away anyway? She needs more than he can give anyway. I think you should show her this thread, sure others will post, and THEN take her out, maybe go and party in the evening, you're both still young, take up classes together, go to fun attractions where you meet people and hopefully she'll find someone to give her what she must have been craving for so long! Have fun! :))
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reader, luckycloud +, writes (23 May 2013):
luckycloud is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPS: they are truly in love, because the boy does seriously think about their future as getting married or settling down together.
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