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writes: A guy and I have been seeing each other on a friends basis since January. I have little experience of guys, and the guy I am seeing is quite shy. I don’t know how to start and keep a conversation flowing with him at times. What subjects can I talk to him about that will maintain his interest? On the one hand, he seems to crave speed and excitement (I am concerned I am too boring for him) but on the other hand he says he wants to live somewhere where not much happens. He seems quite a complex character. Also what sort of places can I take him out to? He seems to take control in where we go out to. The only suggestion I have made is going out to a pub. He was resistant to that, possibly because he doesn’t drink or maybe it was the social side of it. He likes the cinema but there is nothing on there at the mo; I think he likes going places where he is not under too much pressure to talk alot. I think we both fear awkward silences in a way. When we have gone out, other than the cinema, we have done activities with our families; it’s a good idea on this guy’s part because it takes the pressure off if we’re feeling abit shy. The time of year doesn’t help either as there is not alot open at the moment. Also, we don’t have a great deal of money. So, conversational suggestions please and activities that we can do based on what I’ve said above. Thank you very much.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (19 February 2006):
 Just to point out the below reply is from the original author of the question and has been verified as such. Sorry for any confusion caused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2006): Well, we do talk about stuff, but sometimes I find it difficult to know what is going on in that head of his. I guess I want to know how he feels about things, although I appreciate that guys do not readily give their feelings away. As I said, he is quite shy and has just come out of a relationship where he was hurt quite badly so it seems difficult to get him to open up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2006): Sounds strange u wouldn't have anything to talk about when u barely know each other..maybe your not meant to be!!
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