A
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age
26-29,
*WildThing~
writes:I've had feelings for a guy for nearly 4 years and i've tried to stop them. I leave space between us in an attempt to cease my feelings for him and i focus my attention on other things but my feelings always come flodding back. at one point, i barely spoke to for about half a year and didn't see him for a long period of time either and we had a massive argument to the point where there were a lot of angry feelings towards him. we've recently started talking again but i'm finding that i'm starting to like him again. i don't know what to do, anything happening between us would be impossible.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (9 June 2012):
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Is he older or younger?
I suspect older?
If younger he is not emotionally ready and deserves to be left alone. For he is a boy.
If he is older he has trouble relating to you, first because he cannot feel a connection when the age gap is what it is.
In another five years this age gap will seem inconsequential to him. But right now it is too much for him.
Plus he is holding back because he thinks you are (at the moment) too young for him.
Try patience and getting on with your life. If it is meant to be then it will happen.
Don't try to make him jealous. Don't act up. Just get on with your life. Enjoy your life and try to keep busy with activities that are positive and make you feel good.
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reader, ~WildThing~ +, writes (8 June 2012):
~WildThing~ is verified as being by the original poster of the question the tension lies in the fact that there is a 3 aand a half year age gap
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reader, Abella +, writes (8 June 2012):
I am very sorry you have been feeling so much for this guy.
There is a connection between the two of you but also the tension of 'history' between the two of you. And that unresolved tension seems to be holding you back from developing other possible friendships.
You have sustained feelings for him for a considerable time. But it has not developed into something more, yet?
If a guy is serious about you then it is likely he would have tried to interest you more by now.
Was there a large age gap between the two of you? Or did he have some other tensions in his life? Unrelated to you? Or is he just a completely different person to you in his values and attitudes?
Sometimes there comes a point where people still besotted by an unrequited love have to accept that there are 7 billion people in the world. If you take out the ones who do not match you, then you are still left with a few hundred thousand 'perfect matches' for you. And in time you will meet some of these perfect matches.
Have you wondered why you have such a strong wish to resolve the situation in your. A relationship will not work if only one partner wants it to work.
So have you considered that the tension is because he does not want the
relationship to develop into something more permanent, but that is exactly what you do want.
Guys sense when a girl is utterly into a guy. And if they do not feel the same way they will distance themselves from the girl.
Instead of focusing on what you wish could happen, but can't happen according to you it is time to reach other to other activities and other people.
Life is too short to waste yearning for a guy who does not seem to want to be involved in the relationship you would like to exist.
Start taking stock of how you could challenge yourself to achieve some good things. Distract yourself.
Learn a new skill. Or take up walking 10,000 steps daily, wearing a pedometer on your waist band.
Join a community group involved in supporting or helping in a community project.
think about revamping you. New hair color.
Is there something else you would like to achieve? Work out an action plan to make it happen.
You are worth more than allowing time to march on by you, while you pine for what might have been, OF ONLY?
Start your own 'successes in the future' - put in the groundwork now.
A busy confident person will attract more attention and interest. Especially if the person does not seem to have time for a relationship. It becomes a challenge for the guys
Best wishes.
Abella
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