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writes:I need to know if I should just give up on my marriage we have only been married for 8 months and my husband is really acting like he hates me I really love him I don't know what I should do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): it depends what you define as 'acting like he hates me'. if hes bouncing your head of his fists and being abusive.. by all means run the hell away from it hunn.
if hes just being a bit distant, cold shoulderd etc it sometimes happens with newly weds, especially men. hes gone from 'playing the field', doing his own thing and being his own man to having someone else to look after and support and he has to adjust to that. its also a very stressfull time getting married,moving in etc so maybe he just needs to chill.
spend some qaulity time together, go out for walks, meals and when your at home talk properly without any distractions like tele,music etc
hope this helps
english gent x
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reader, wes  +, writes (17 January 2007):
If him acting like he hates you is at all abusive you must make it clear that you will not tolerate it. Leaving is not an option and you have the rest of your life to live with this should it not get resolved.
How open is your husband with his feelings? You need to provide an environment in which he can express his thoughts, feelings and concerns. This is not to say that you aren't doing this already but you will have to be consistent and endure. The longer he keeps them repressed the longer they will have to fester.
Couples counselling would be good as it would give the two of you tools to improve communication. It will also give you an opportunity to lead by example. Be open and vulnerable with your feelings and supportive of his.
Individual councelling would also be a good idea for him if he may have to first acknowledge his feelings to himself. If he manages to say it out loud with a councellor he will be more able to say it out loud with you.
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