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writes: I'm 20 years old, and pregnant with my second child, due January 2006. I have a 3 year old little girl. My children will have different fathers. The father of my second child has taken on role of my little girl's dad. We were and family til he cheated on me 4 days ago. Did he do it because he doesn't want the childern? We've had problems for a while. Thank-you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2005): I am sorry, he has put you through this. Please make sure to stay healthy & stress free and take care of yourself-your unborn child deserves that. Please keep in touch with your family doctor-if all this added emotional pain gets too hard for you. The discovery of a partner's infidelity can hit a woman with the force of a runaway train. But does it mean that the relationship is permanently derailed? Why he did this to you? In this case, only you know that answer because you know him best. Some men who have been unfaithful aren't necessarily bad guys but still loving-if imperfect--partners. They are good men who strayed. Why does it happen? Because his subconscious sexual needs can temporarily make a sexual opportunity seem too good to pass up. Only in hindsight do many men realize the cost. When us women are tempted to cheat..we tend to weigh the consequences more carefully. Please have a huge talk with him and perhaps the two of you can seek some counseling to work out your problems. You ask if he did this, because he doesn't want children? It's so hard to say. If he has given you any prior indicators that he didn't want children, it is possible and he could be trying to sabotage the relationship, to shirk his parental duties. Only he can provide the answers WHY he did this.
With another child on the way though, he needs to realize how he will be needed to help you raise the kids. Please seek some counseling and get some advice from a professional. You babies deserve a happy, intact family with TWO parents, to love them and provide a happy, solid home. Take care. Hugs, Irish
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