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writes:Hi, I've been with my current boyfriend for 5 months but I've known him a few years. We're both completely comfortable with each other and we feel that we love each other and we actually want a future together. We've done most things, "sexually" together, except actual intercourse. I'm a virgin and he's only had sex once, through peer pressure.Recently, we decided we wanted to have sex. We talked about it properly and decided we were ready so we bought condoms. We didn't just "go for it" we just let things take it's usual course. However, the problem is, when he did try to penetrate me, he couldn't. He said he just couldn't go in at all. It's happened a few times since then as well. Also, I can only be fingered with one finger, there's literally no more room, and it usually hurts quite a bit, any advice? He's not putting pressure on me and is waiting, but I'd like to get past this. Thank you x
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (16 August 2007):
 Believe it or not "not being able to get it in" is quite a common problem and even happened to myself the first time. Something that can help with this problem greatly is some sort of lubrication. Durex have a wide variety but I suggest as you are just starting out you don't go for one that has a flavour or adds heat. Just a normal lube which you can get in any chemist. This will help ease the penis in and also will help ease the pain you may feel the first time. Before you have actual intercourse though I also suggest that your boyfriend puts some of the lube onto his fingers and starts with one and then gradually puts in two and then three, depending on how big your boyfriends penis is! It will most probably hurt if its your first time but we've all been there and the pain will soon be over and you'll be able to experience sex on a more pleasurable level! Good luck!
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