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female
age
36-40,
*hannan
writes:So i have been dating this guy for a year now. Hes been talking to his ex fiance and its driving me nuts!! I'm not sure why they broke up, all i know is when they broke up he wanted his stuff back and she called the cops and lied to them so he would be charged and put in jail. she end up moving to Calgary to the cops would drop eveything, which they didnt. i'm also going to add that he did cheat on her like 60 time. Anyways when i first found out they were talking which i was fine with until i hear they were talking more than what he told me. After he told me she was asking for adivce from him i got MAD. i wrote her an e-mail asking her to stop talking to my boyfriend and she has her own boyfriend to turn to, my boyfriend already had enought problems in his life to worrie about. She worte me back telling me nice to f*ck off. That showed me that she still has feelings for him. Im i right? Last night i went into the computer room and i saw that she e-mailed him and he was in the middle of e-mailing her back, I was so mad that i walk right out of the room. He acted like i saw nothing and never said anything to me instead he was being all nice. He dose that every time i find out they have talked. About 2 months ago we moved to Calgary (thats were she is) and i'm scaryed he going to go and see her or something wrost he going to cheat on me. I left everthing for this boy all my friend my family my car and even my pets which i'll never get back, they were my babies. I dont know what to do anymore i love my boyfriend why else would i move to calgary with him. What should i do? dose he still have feelings for her? should i just leave and go back home where i'm loved and wanted?
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reader, tishatasha  +, writes (3 January 2008):
 If you had seen any e-mails saying sexual stuff then you have a reason to be mad but if they were just simple little problems then maybe they have just become friends again.
Also try and trust him because lack of trust and tottaly kill a relationship.
Hope this helps
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reader, rcn  +, writes (3 January 2008):
 This really makes me think. What the hell are you thinking??? It seems as if he has a real low respect for you. He may not even have respect no matter who he dates. He cheated on his ex that many times. Tell me, what makes you that much different than her, that would prevent him from doing the same to you?
I'm not trying to devalue you, I'm stating that women (the gender), sexually are not really that much different. So if they're similar, someone who's a compulsive cheater will repeat their behavior no matter who they are with. It has nothing to do with you, it has to do with his (false) desires.
With him talking to an ex who called the cops on him, filed false allegations, got him arrested, etc. There has to be something wrong with him seeing it as safe to his livelihood to continue speaking with her.
Staying with him, he's not the only one who's disrespecting you. You're disrespecting yourself as well. You deserve better than the treatment he's giving you. Be strong for yourself and never let a guy walk over you as he is. Life's too short and people are too important to spend time putting up with the BS others send their way.
Take care.
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