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writes:well to start off the guy that i've been seeing for the past almost two years now, decided to end our relationship. we were fighting a lot and it just seemed like we were disagreeing with everything.. he wasn't allowed at my house-please don't ask how old i am, i'm twenty years old. we had a few rocky months in which he was controlling and that's when my mom "outlawed" him from our house. The kicker: i'm pregnant. now the question... how do i tell him? or should i? i mean he told me we shouldn't see each other anymore, so should i tell him? and how should i approach my mom? i'm not for abortions.. i just couldn't do that- so it's not an option..
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell female reader.. it wasn't "unprotected" i was on teh pill but had taken an antibiotic that the pharmacist didn't tell me would counteract my bc. i found that out on my own.
and not all young adults are bad parents and not all live off the government.. that wasn't my plan btw. i can and have been supporting my self.. and will continue to do so. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): What can anyone say here to make this go away for you? Absolutely nothing. These are the ccnsequences of unplanned pregnancy and teenage unprotected sex.
The father has a right to know he's about to be a father if you plan on giving birth. Now he is financially responsible in his young life for at least the next 18 years to support this child. Your parents will probably end up raising it, and the government will pay you benefits for having a child out of wedlock. What a deal, huh?
It's time to face everyone and tell them what's in store and you need to get prenatal care so start talking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): You're in a tough situation. Here's the deal though: In the United States, fathers have equal rights for visitation, etc. for their children. Therefore, if you keep that child, it seems to me that he has a right to know it's his, to see the child and even to help support the child.First of all, you need to research your options and decide what you'd be willing to do with your baby. Secondly, you might want to tell your mom; she's going to find out eventually, like when you're giving birth. Thirdly, your exboyfriend needs to know that he helped create a life.But before you do all of that, you need to verify that you are, in fact, pregnant, and not just accidentally late on your period. This doesn't mean buy a home pregnancy test at a store. You need to go to a women's clinic or Planned Parenthood for a legitimate pregnancy test. No need to get people worked up for no reason.Good luck!
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