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writes:I need advice on why a man I've been dating would start to have sex and stop - saying he is tired and then the next morning not take me up on my advances.We've been dating for just over three and 1/2 weeks - fairly intense - and we both agreed that we are not serial daters and looking for something real. I am not having sex with anyone and he said he is not either. So after 3 and 1/2 weeks - we had this half attempt. He started to have sex and then said he'd be too tired and stopped. Next morning he said he was too rushed and he was trying to leave on a 2 week business trip that day. I know my thought was - 2 more weeks and no sex - lets have a quickie at least !So thoughts? Sexual distinction ? He is sleeping with someone else or planned to during the 2 weeks away? Or just wanted our first time to be special - and didn't want to be rushed ? He is 36. Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 August 2012):
 My "little Elvis" never left the building, at least not until I passed the age of 60. And that once occurred because of medications. I don't think that we can know why your bf failed to get it on with you, but as "Cerberus" suggested, "sex is different for us guys." Well, I would adjust that to say," On rare occasions, it is not the priority at the time." Usually, however, I've always been "up" for it. Your guy may need specific times or conditions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2012): I think a few weeks is too short a time to have sex and you are lucky he isn't just wants that and is taking the time to get to know you. If he wasn't attracted he wouldn't have started. Give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I was just concerned because he had been trying for the last two times we spent the day and night together - and this time he initiated it and I decided I was ready. Then he puts on a condom and starts and abruptly stops - announcing he won't have an orgasam because he is too tired.
And then the next morning I was kissing him and flat out said it - and he said he didn't have time. Previous to him - my boyfriend was younger than me and never turned me down.
I guess it's best not to bring it up and make a big deal of it and see what happens when he returns from the trip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2012): Most likely is what he says it was OP. He was probably tired and wasn't into it enough that he knew he'd lose his erection or something.
OP sex is different for us guys, we can't just open our legs and lube ourselves up and then we're ready. Sometimes little Elvis just won't play a tune.
Take him at his word OP, I see no reason why he would lie. Try not to read to deeply and make assumptions. It doesn't matter how beautiful a girl is or whether we'd started or not sometimes little Elvis just leaves the building.
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