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writes:i am 27 years old....and i have a live in partner now...i really love him and i do anything to make hes happy..but in 9 years we been together...he cannot say to me that he loves me....how can i sure that he loves me even with out saying that he loves me?he care to me,but i want my partner saying that he loves me....why he didnt tell me...?that he loves me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): Please know that what I am about to say really bears no definite reflection on your relationship. I am not there so I don't really know what is going on.HOWEVER, my ex boyfriend had told me that he had dated this girl for several years whom he never told he loved. This REALLY bothered her just like it bothers you. I asked him if he did love her and he said NO and that is why he never told her that he loved her. So I asked him why he even dated her. He said he didn't really know himself, he said he did like her and cared about her but he never loved her. Now this is coming from a guy who tells me he loves me everyday. A guy who has been telling me he loves me since like the second week that we started going out. So it wasn't that he has a tough time expressing himself cause I can assure he doesn't. It really just had to do with the fact that he really just didn't love her. I am not saying that this is true in your case cause I hope its not. But I am saying that this is a possibility that you really shouldn't overlook. You deserve way better than that. And if I were you I would take his silence ALOT more seriously. What I would do in your situation is ask him what he wants for this relationship. If he is still silent, girl you really should move on. Cause in my opinion, his silence really is a BAD sign.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (19 December 2007):
 Some people aren't good at expressing their feelings.
Do you feel loved? I know it's not enough to feel it sometimes, you want to hear it, but if you FEEL loved then that's a good start.
There must be something there to have been with each other 9 years.
Have you asked him if he loves you? Have you asked him why he doesn't say he loves you? if you haven't, you should. It's the only way to get the answers you want and need.
If you have asked him, what were his answers?
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