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writes:I met a guy who is 32, and i am 48 through a respectable online profile a week or so ago, we spoke regularly and for sometimes hours on end finding we hit it off extremely well, i knew he had children from a previous marriage 2 boys and he said he had a daughter also from another relationship,i did not mind this as i have a grown son also from a previous marriage and he was advertising for a serious relationship as was i. Now, as of writing this we still have not yet met because.. we made arrangements for a first date, he text me saying he was dying to meet me as i was getting ready to leave for the date, he text me again to tell me that he respected and wanted to be with me so very much that he had to mention the following day his ex who is ony 20 years old and has just given birth to his baby daughter was coming to stay at his one bedroomed flat for a few days in order that he may meet his daughter for the first time, as she lives quite far away..he explained that this brief relationship with her had been a rebound mistake, which he regretted, and he did not want her to come either but he needed to see the baby, of course i immediately thanked him for his honesty,cancelled the date and told him that i would not be happy with such a situation as having looked at her profile it seemed she had other ideas of desiring a little more.. which i told him, he said he was not interested in her at all and was truly devastated that i did not want to see him when i complained that in order to be dating another he should make other arrangements whereas the mother did not stay there with him but he had access to the baby only, if he wanted to begin another relationship with someone, he said he wanted to be completely honest with me from the beginning and that he only desired to be with me and that i was his every thought and all he had ever wanted to come into his life, he has not stopped contacting me even though i said i would leave him alone for those few days so he could get on with things, and i needed to sort out my thoughts before continuing.I really do like him and i believe in my heart we are very well matched, i think we could have had a very beautiful relationship if it were not for this situation.. i have to think of everyone involved and as a respectful woman i just do not know what to do.. should i just walk away or begin as we intended to at the start, my heart is telling me one thing and my head another..should i give it a chance or is it doomed at the very start..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): You don't need someone else's emotional baggage, you want to be out there dating having loads of fun and 100% attention off a guy. This guy is already putting you second and you haven't even been on a date!!!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (19 December 2007):
 Personally, I would run a mile. You're not already attatched. Ex's equal trouble, guaranteed. It sounds too messy for you to get involved. He might sound like a perfect match, but there are probably a dozen more like him, without the baggage.
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