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*panddown
writes:hello everybodyim new here ive been going out with a girl 10 yrs.at the start it was great,then she did the dirt on me.she wasent going to tell me only sombody else saw her then she came and told me.i was heartbroken and from then on ididnt ever trust her.8 years on things have changed i suffer with deppression.paranoia,anxiety.now we have a 5year old girl.im afraid now because i dont go out to socialize anymore but my girlfriend does go out with her friends,and im afraid she will meet sombody else.she gets messages very often but deletes them,says her phone has a small memory.also the phone is old and in bits.(food for thought)she also has let our sex life go to once a month if at all.i ask why she cant tell me.now she dresses herself up even if only going to the shop.she wears sexy g strings etc and is showing a bit too much when she goes out.i point this out to her but she dont listen.she is going out tomoro night without me,she thinks i will ruin her fun,so im left at home feeling suicidal to say the least and looking after our daughter.theres loads more but il leave it at this for the moment.sadly waiting a reply
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reader, upanddown +, writes (1 September 2007):
upanddown is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for answering mei confronted her last nite and told her how i felt.it took a while for me to get through to her ,because any of my issues with her i kept to myself for the past few years,only because when i did ask her about her actions she called me phsyco,loseretc and i dont have to answer that.i told her she makes me feel small and not a man,even tho she expects me to be.i also asked her why she did the dirt on me but got no answer.i want an answer from her cause ive been asking,comparing myself to others and wondering what did i do. this has only taken my confidence ,esteem etc away.she is going to the pub tonight and dosent want me to go.i would like to go but its gone to the stage where i cant sit in a pub and be natural and at ease.she also has bought these rubber things you put in a bra to make her look bigger and a low cut piece of a top if you could call it that. this to me is an invitation to other fellas or am i completely off track. i feel so bad and it hurts. i'l have my usuall anxiety attacks tonight when she's out. i even think i should follow her!
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 I can sympathise with you. If you remain in your current psychological place - do you think things will get better or worse?Imagine that one month ahead things are starting to get better due to you taking 2 or 3 steps to improve your situation. What would you notice when things are improving? What would your girlfriend notice?Decide on the 2 or 3 actions that you will do quite soon - and then do them. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel. Think about previous things you have done that have been positive in the past, remind yourself how good it felt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): Go on line and do the Moodgym. It has helped my severe depression enormously and is fascinating. Work out the rest when your though processes are straight. You have got to do something about your depression first and it is urgent I can see that. I promise you this website will help. Please tell us whether you tried it.
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