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writes: I was dating a guy for about a month when I did something very stupid and started talking to another guy on the side. This devastated him. However, he stayed with me. Then, it got to me and I just broke it off. He was so heart-broken. Then, we got back together. When we did, we were so happy. Then, the little girl in me took over and broke it off again for selfish reasons. He became severely depressed. I was afraid for his life. Yet, something inside of me wouldn't take him bk. Then, we got back together after the summer. We continued an on again off again relationship with me breaking it off everytime.Then, I finally decided I just couldn't do it anymore. Now, we are not officially dating, but we act as if we are. He doesn't act as if he loves or needs me anymore. He's always blaming me for everything, and I am never right. He brings things up from months ago and expects me to be very apologetic. Yet, when he makes a mistake, I'm expected to let it go immediately. If I say I can't do it anymore and I'm ready to leave, he tells me that he's not gonna beg and if I'm leaving not to come back, Should I stay with him?
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (19 May 2008):
 The first comment I want to make is that "the past is the past". It seems to me that if you've apologized for something once, you shouldn't need to do it again, or worse yet, be constantly reminded of it. This makes me think that he's trying to guilt-trip you into staying around. Further, if anything he does wrong (assuming the issues are on par with each other) he wants to slide by without notice, then there's a vast inequality going on between you.
Frankly, I'm always surprised when I hear of relationships where there's this on-again off-again thing going on. It seems like enough of that happens you'd just say "OK, there's enough wrong here... let's not drag this on forever" and call the relationship over.
Personally, I think that you've been given all the signals you need to call this a done deal. He might be harboring a grudge against you for past hurt, or maybe you've simply realized you're not going anywhere and he sees it too (but won't admit it). I think it's time to move on...
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