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We've been on and off -- help!

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Question - (29 December 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 10 January 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, *risteza writes:

Hi,

Well where do i start, i have been with my boyfriend on and off for the last year and a bit. we were broken up from february to may (he just didnt want to be with me and that was that). I was on anti depressants and really very low as i just couldnt grasp that after all we had been through all he had promised that he didnt want to be together any longer.

Then low and behold three months later in May he comes back all apologies and promises, like an idiot i fall for it; he changes is phone number, comes off of facebook, we go on holiday together i virtually live with him and he goes and has my name tattooed on his arm!! we argue and bicker and its always the same he leaves me for days to almost suffer, then after telling me each time he no longer wants me he comes back after two days, four days etc this is a pattern with the relationship...if for some reason im in the wrong and apologise he never accepts it but draws it out and leaves me again for days trying to get myself together. Anyway he is constantly ging on about us having a baby begging me to have a baby with him (i never have has at the moment i am studying) he moves out of his flat back with his parents so we can save for a mortgage..5 weeks ago we had a row something silly, i was in the wrong and apologised..he wouldnt let it go and told me he no longer wanted to be with me....days pass i leave it...then a week i try my hardest to reconscile but he tells me he has had enough and that i should move on...so i log onto facebook to speak to my friends and within a day i get abusive texts saying that he could see through me logging back on there, so again i try and explain i need my friends around me he says i caused the break up (me going on facebook!!! but before i caused it for other reasons) anyway he is no longer interested and is cold and nasty to me if i try to talk to him telling me to f••ck off...so i left it. three weeks and yesterday i text him wishing him a good new year and saying i hoped he had had a nice christmas...he was nice back so i asked him if maybe we could meet up in the future. his response NO sorry. i just dont get why he no longer wants to be with me after all the promises wanting a bay, chasing me, moving out of his flat... why?? He seems totally unaffested where as all the other silly arguments he has seemed to care. please help i feel that life has no meaning

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011):

well he obviously has problems... This guy is treating you all wrong.. You should not let him do this to you... He breaks up all the time.. and comes back to you? than he will come back this time too.. but you should not put up with it anymore.. my boyfriend is just like yours.. he accuses me of doing stuff i never thought of doing, and he has no reasons argue but he does.. and we break up all the time.. but i don't wanna leave him cuz i love him.. :/ i suppose that is how you feel too... :/ i know that doesn't help much, but i hope it did help a bit xx

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