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writes:I have been involved with a married man for almost 3 years. Hes been married for 16 yrs. Im married myself for 13 yrs. Its hard as I havent had the greatest marriage. Him, hes says the same thing. We connected as friends and ended up being more. Its hard to let go. He says he loves me but also loves her. I love my husband but my thoughts are always about him. He says he has to keep busy so he doesnt think of me. He says he misses me all the time. he tells me he loves me and I tell him that. We have tried to break many times, but always end up talking again. I need help to get over him! How when he is always in my thoughts???
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): He has to keep busy so he doesn't think of you. This is a confession that he will never leave his wife (listen to it!) He perceives the illicitness of your situation and is admittedly covering the traces and himself. If he does not, even remotely, think of divorce, what does this tell you? The first step to get over him is to think of him not as a person who you love, but a person who doesn't love you, then stop excusing your stay in this affair, alleging it is too late, or that you are weak, because you are not. Be the master of your passions as it is never a good idea to let your feelings take the helm. When did you become estranged from your husband, what formed the rift? Why did you fail to continue your marriage as it started? You are very confused. If you have undetermind feelings for your husband, elucidate those, work upon those and their intensity, clarify them and rediscover their familiarity.
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