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*arriejean81
writes:Hello. I am a 26 year old female. My husband and i got married almost 4 months ago. My husband rejects me when i try and seduce him. We probally have sex once a month if that. I have held this hurt inside for too long....i know that this is not and cannot be normal. I have tried talking to him about it...he always says that we are going to "work" on it. But then it doesnt change. I can be laying right beside him butt naked masterbating with my toy and it gets no response from him....im so confused. And i am definately getting very tired of solo sex. I dont really know what the problem can be...is he cheating? maybe he is afraid im going to get pregnant? He knows how important having a baby is to me and he knew this before he married me. I have actually confronted him about the possiblity that he is avoiding sex with me because he doesnt want to have another child (he has two from a previous marriage) and he completely denies it. so i dont know??? I just dont know what to do...it really hurts to be rejected by my husband. I feel so undesirable. please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, starita  +, writes (2 January 2008):
hi friend i dont really know whats wrong with our husbands i have same problem but i am married 8 months now and i am still a virgin this is really true i am not even able to use sex toys cos i dont know how ? why they marry us if just to share a bed and home and bills so its crazy for me the diffrence between husband and friend is sex i have plenty of friends and i want a husband i dont know i cant help u cos i cant help my self i just write to u to know that there is some unlucky women have same problem as u so dont feel alone u can email me any time u are welcome i hope evry thing ll be fine and happy new year
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (2 January 2008):
 You are right to be concerned. To be flying solo after only 4 months of marriage isn't normal. As the Bard of Stratford upon Avon once wrote, "Something in Denmark is stinking up the place." or something like that. LOL.
When he tells you that "we will work on it", tell him that you want to work on it right now. Make an appointment to see a marriage counselor and make sure your "shrinking violet" goes with you.
Good luck.
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