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writes:My husband and I were seperated....We are trying to work things out and have been back together for about 2 months. His facebook status is its complicated.Im upset because we are trying to work things out so he should change it am I right???? Its complicated sends the wrong message... What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): Technically I guess it IS 'complicated' isn't it! I wouldn't like it myself & I would ask him about it just once, see what he says and then leave it at that. Many people use this phrase on facebook. I would be far more worried if he wrote 'single' or 'looking for a casual relationship' or 'looking for marriage' or some such! It's just his way of expressing himself perhaps? or being honest about his situation? Personally I don't see the need to be so public on facebook and I would prefer to keep my relationship issues private but many people do use this 'it's complicated' tag. 'It's complicated' suggests to me that a person is in a relationship and trying to work something out .. it certainly would not make me think they are single or available so I would steer well clear if I saw a guy I liked on FB with that tag. So don't worry too much, just focus on sorting things out with him .. put your energies there and forget about FB. People can be a bit silly on FB and say things in the heat of the moment, then be too busy to log on, or too busy when logged on to sort out their pages/delete comments etc .. My advice is to not take FB too seriously .. but do take your own life seriously. Maybe you could keep your options open even, so that if it doesn't work out with him, you may meet other people later. But I hope it all works out for you how you ant it to and you end up happy. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone who took the time to answer my question. Our seperation was very complicated so his status does have some truth to it so I guess I am going to let this one go. Although I do not like it I will not make a big deal over it. Thanks again.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 I wouldn't like this either and would view it as loss of face if anyone else was seeing it. I understand where you are coming from but you can't force people to say things that you want them to. I would make a decision today and that is that you are not going to look at his page on facebook anymore. It is annoying you and upsetting you so don't go there. I would also have it out with your husband and ask him why he has put that and tell him that having that on facebook is not conducive to you working things out. I always think it is best to ask things outright if things are upsetting you otherwise they grow and fester and further resentment kicks in.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Don't split hairs on minor issues. Don't miss the forests for the trees.
Don't focused on the minor details or intricacies of something that you miss the big picture or the main point.
It can be complicated to a man and that is his honest opinion.You should not be upset with his FB status.
Perhaps , he did not think of it or was conscious or rememberd what he wrote there.
If you start disagreeing with everything he says or does, it will soon develop into big problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): When you are married, or living with someone, part of getting along is learning how to let go of the little things. Forget about face book and work on the real problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): Shut facebook and don't look at again! If you are going to worry about what he is doing instead of what you both or you need to do... it will send the wrong message to your relationship.
The facebook status is silly face to the world. How does it matter - even if you have a 1000 people on it? The you start taking cues about your relationship from an online application, is the day you should get out of it.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (6 March 2010):
 "It's complicated" is way better than "single". I think you should let this slide and focus instead on your relationship.
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