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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:help!! ive been with my boyfriend now for 3 years. we have 3 kids together an have been threw alot!! there has been more downs then up an im currently doing counselling to help me change into a better person. the problem is he is ment to be doing it as well an hasnt yet started! i dont think his comitted as i am to change! the problem is i want changes an im starting to think we would be better off without him. im not sure i love him like i did, but id be devistated if he went with someone else!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 You have already made a huge step towards changing your life for the better by recognising you need some help to do it!
Keep on with the conselling, even if your boyfriend isn't committed to those changes.
Your kids deserve the changes, and so do you, if he doesnt want to go along with those changes with you, then leave him behind.
While I can agree it would be devastating to see him off with somebody else think of it like this, will he chose a women who is as committed to change for the better as you, or would he chose one who wont be looking for those changes but would prefer to be trapped into the sort of life you are wanting to get out of?
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