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writes:My ex-boyfriend and I recently had a mutual break up after living together and being in a relationship for 2 years. We realize that we're not right for each other right now but we are still in love with each other. What should we do? How do we proceed from here? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2012): I agree with the other posters, either give each other space figure out if being together is what both of you want and if one person decides their eyes are not set for the relationship and the other does- do not remain friends, it is hard to imagine your lover as being a friend- because you will have feelings for that person, wanting to be with him/her.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (18 December 2012):
I can sympathize as I have been in one of these relationships. Let me guess - when its good its amazing. Highs like youve never imagined, mind blowing sex, etc. The flip side is lows like you couldnt dream of, scathing arguments, etc.
Unfortunately, IMO relationships like this one are for the short term and memories. One simply cannot live their lives long term w ups and downs like this.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 December 2012):
 IF you know it will never work and you are splitting up even when you love each other, seeing each other will be difficult.
IF you don't want to make the effort with a counselor to see if you can make it work, then the easiest thing to do for the short term (a year or so) is go no contact.
IF you can't bear to be in no contact,then why won't it work.
you cannot have it both ways.
staying friends with an ex never works.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (18 December 2012):
 HI
It must be a very difficult time for you both, but I think the only thing you can do is give eachother a bit of time and space. It may well be you both just need this time apart to realise what you mean to eachother, as often in relationships we get too comfortable, to the point of bordem or bickering over silly things. a month or two apart can do wonders. And if you both decide after then that your still not good for eachother atleast the blow wont be as harsh. And you can remain civil and even great freinds.
Mandy x
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