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writes:My question is really two fold and I would like to hear from the other ladies. It was a shock to come home unexpectedly early and catch my husband in bra and panties. Things that he apparently has purchased but says this is really his first time wearing these. Shall I believe him?My second question is that I really have not discussed this with anyone and wonder if this would be a suitable girl-girl chat with a girl friend or will she think “ewwwww TMI”Deb
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reader, Serpico +, writes (18 December 2012):
I have had a few women tell me this about their ex's, so I know it exists. That said, I cannot for the life of me understand why a man would want to do such a thing, but to each their own.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 December 2012):
 several things here:
1. I have one or two friends I would discuss this with but they have been friends a long time and are not judgmental
2. a man who is a cross dresser is usually heterosexual so I don't want you to think this means he's gay or bisexual.
3. if he really is into cross dressing you could if you are comfortable with it add it to your sexual routine... it could be exciting and interesting fun...
he may have been thinking about this for many years and finally got the nerve to do it.
or he may have hidden it from you thinking you would leave or think him gay (again MOST males who cross dress for sexual turn on are NOT gay) and he finally got caught
Any way you look at it, especially if you have been together a long time, I don't think it's something that necessarily spells the end of your marriage, especially if you are comfortable with it.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (18 December 2012):
 This is not a topic many discuss so before you do I would find out if she's into things like this firstly. Well if he wants to wear them you can't stop him. He probably look good in them so make the most of it. Find out if he is go turn gay or bisexual also would be goof ideal.
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reader, Debbie12 +, writes (18 December 2012):
Debbie12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst off i didn't say there was any problem nor did i accuse anyone of being gay. It was a shock to find this. I am saying there is a change of behavior and as the wife i feel entitled to question this. Who said there was a problem i was trying to get some input. What's wrong with that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2012): When I was 21, I walked into my bedroom to find my boyfriend wearing my underwear.
I found it both funny and slightly disturbing at the time. He defended himself saying he was just curious. I had the nagging thought later that he might be gay. But he's now happily married to someone else, so I suppose it didn't mean anything conclusive.
If you think your friends can handle it, why not tell them? You have nothing to be ashamed of, it's not as if you did anything. And what kind of friend wouldn't laugh with you about something like this?
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reader, Debbie12 +, writes (18 December 2012):
Debbie12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both. At this time i do not want to make any hasty decisions. We need to talk more.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (18 December 2012):
 HI
It depends on your friend really, how close are you? I would say keep it to yourself to be honest. More to the point how do you feel know knowing your husband likes to do this? many men do this and I know it may seem weird or strange, but unless you talk properly with him to understand why he does this you wont be able to move forward. I don't think it's something I could live with but thats just me, many people go through this every day and continue to have a wonderful life together and just learn to understand eachother, and it brings them closer as a loving couple. So before you think the worst talk with him not your friends. It must be very difficult for him, no-one wants or asks to be this way, and now that you caught him he must feel very embarrassed maybe even ashamed. I hope you both sit and talk and sort things out. Other than this is your relationship been a good one?
Mandy x
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reader, moan a lots wife +, writes (18 December 2012):
Hmm, there is your clue. This is REALLY the first time. The really is what concerns me and the fact he would go out and purchase them in the first place. Really indicates hes done it before but this time he REALLY did it.
If that floats your boat and you are ok with it, thats up to you. Some wives do find it incredibly sexual. Nothing wrong with it if you know and approve.
Problem is though - I am assuming hes a similar age as you. Men by your age dont just decide to cross dress. Its been in the making for years
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