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writes:I have been married for 5 years and have a son, i work with a woman who has a serious boyfriend and two children. We're both happy in our relationships but for some reason cannot seem to leave one another alone. We have both tried to cut ties and stop talking, but for some reason we always come back to wanting one another... We have not had sex but im worried its going to happen, i both want it to and i don't want it to, we're just both like two magnets we're drawn to one another and i dont want to have to quit my job.... what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): It happens to everyone. You think just because you got married that attraction stops? It doesn't. You just deal with it. Tell your wife about the crush. It'll be a huge relief and it'll take a lot of the fun out of it. Why? Because when your with your "magnet" you'll start to feel guilty. You've got it all. Be a man and move on. Many of us on this website have been through this. Tell your wife. Things will get better :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): You will end up the loser here! This other woman will not leave her boyfriend and children, lets look at it this way. Your wife will leave you with your son, you will be alone and she will be getting money from you each month for child support, also she will find a nice new man who will be faithful and be the father to your son when you aren't around during the week. Hmmmm what should you do???
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 Hey I found the answer to your problem...might hurt a bit (especially the hammer part) but it should work.
http://www.x-magnet.net/faq.html
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 December 2010):
Get it together, man. You're married with a son. And if you read all the news, you know that when it comes to divorce and kids, the mother usually gets preferential treatment. In other words, if you cheat and your good wife divorces, then you'll get to see your son for just two days every two weeks. Then you'll also lose your home, money, lifestyle. And also when your son find out the truth, you can be sure he'll take a big dislike towards you.
It's not hard to keep away from this woman. You're not doing what it takes, and you're not focusing on the fact that if something happens, you'll wind up in a bedsit with no son, no wife, no job (because you'll probably get fired or your career will be frozen).
Stop focusing on this other woman, and focus on your marriage and your son. As for this other woman, cut contact as much as possible. And if you think you're getting close again, change jobs. Just don't screw up! Or that will be it.
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