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writes:Hey guys, I'm 25 and am dating a gorgeous girl who's 21. She's perfect for me and we've decided that we're ready to start sleeping together. This weekend we're gonna have sex for the first time but I'm really nervous because it's been a while for me and I don't want to mess things up between us as things are going really well. Any tips on how to make sure I don't stuff up? I don't wanna lose her. Reply to this Question
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reader, mat-tee +, writes (27 June 2007):
mat-tee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advise, fishfoods was especially helpful! cheers guys, im much more relaxed.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 Relax, make ure there are clean sheets on the bed and have fun. I'm sure she is not going to chuck you because the first time you sleep togther didn't completely blow her mind. Get a bottle of wine a couple of candles to set the mood :)
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 June 2007):
 Hey you need to chill out and relax big time, don't put so much pressure on yourself, she is probably feeling exactly the same way as you so maybe you should try talking it over with her, maybe you could get a nice bottle of wine just lay down on the bed and just chat and see how things go there is no pressure and there will be plenty of other times for it.
Take care.xx.
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reader, fishfood +, writes (26 June 2007):
 Just relax! Performance anxiety isn't pretty and can take the fun out of sex. Plus too much anxiety might mean u cant perform at all if u get my drift. Take it easy, and lower your expectations. First-time sex with a new partner is more about exploring each other's bodies and getting to know them better, rather than putting on a show and trying too hard to impress.If ur both nervous, it may take a while for u to completely relax. If either of you are feeling too stressed, just take the pressure off; you don't need to have sex there and then. Wait until you're both sure that you're ready. Best thing is to keep a sense of humour at all times, like if u fall out of bed or I don’t know, cant get her bra undone, laugh it off instead of getting embarrassed or worried, it’ll break the tension and relax the moodFirst time sex with someone new is normally only perfect in films. Nobody's psychic so u have to tell each other what you like and want, and if you're not enjoying something then don't be scared to ask for something different instead. But make sure its not just u whose pulling out all of the stops to please, make sure she makes an effort to do something for you too - there should be some give and take. And remember, she wouldnt be with u if she didnt like u so even if ur first time doesnt go to plan, u wont lose her, but if u do, shes not worth it. hope that helps x
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