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*littlexladyx
writes:Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months (I'm 22, he's 25) and we started to have sex a month ago. I enjoy the sex but I haven't had an orgasm. He said last week that he would like it if I showed him when I was having one because he likes to know he pleases me when we have sex so I didn't have the heart to tell him I don't orgasm. So that night I faked having one and he loved it. He looked so happy--so should I just keep faking it? I still enjoy the sex.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 June 2007):
 You have only just started sleeping with each other, so you have no idea about each others bodies yet that comes with time, i said the same thing to someone earlier talk you are supposed to be having fun, you need to learn from each other and guide each other.
Take care.xx.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (26 June 2007):
 I wouldn't keep faking as it'll make you unhappy and frustrated. If my guy doesn't hit where I want him to I move his hand to where I do or whatever. You could try that. Or try talking to your guy about the issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): Hey XxLittleXladyX, You should probably try a larger variety of positions in general, you might find one that is far more pleasurable. If your partner isn't satisfying you to your peak, then your going to have to experiment a bit and see what he can do to get you there. Because faking it to make him feel better will just strengthen the habit of faking it... and the more you fake it, the harder it gets to have a real orgasm because your so prepared and expectant of faking it.Thats my two cents!
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reader, fishfood +, writes (26 June 2007):
 Faking it is usually a bad idea because if he just isn't pushing the right buttons, faking it gives him the false impression that he's doing everything right. Pretending you're enjoying it 'trains' him to keep on doing stuff that just isn't turning you on and u'll never reach an orgasm that way.u dont need to actually come out and tell him uve never had one, but he wants to make you feel good so don't be scared to show him what you like or ask out loud for what you. he'll probably just think that u feel more comfortable asking him to do these things as ur relationship has developed. Most guys will appreciate advice on what hits your spot anyway. hope that helps x
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