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writes:I'm suppose to be getting married on the 8th of May. It won't be a big wedding. Just a lil something at city hall. The thing is, my mother and my big sister haven't met him yet. I don't really care about him not meeting my mother. Its my sister I'm worried about. But my sis lives in Atlanta and I live in NY. My big sis is really all the family I have since my grandma passed away. Should I postpone the wedding until my sis meets him? The other thing that's bugging me is the fact that everyone thinks I'm making a mistake marrying my current boyfriend. They think I should be marrying my sons father. We've been broken up for almost 3 years. That ship has sailed a long time ago. I refuse to keep putting my happiness on hold for him. Is doing what's best for me and my son a crime?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): What do you really want? You have to make that choice on your own and never look back. If you are asking the question to have someone else tell you what to do or make up your mind then maybe you should hold up a bit and make sure or just go for it and make the best of it. People change and Love is a decision. The butterflies in the beginning always go away at some point.Good luck,Melanie
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (12 April 2009):
 Sometimes when friends worry about us, they do it for a reason. (Though sometimes they are just being a busybody though LOL)However, what were some of the things that they worried about, with this man that you are about to marry? Are they worried because of his race? religion? education or income level? is he disabled? is he abusive? is he a three-headed alien from another planet? lol ... just kidding ..Are those concerns justifiable, regardless of whether or not you and your son's father have split up 3 years ago? Do you think your sister would also have these same concerns?If your sister asked you to postpone your wedding, is that feasible for you, in terms of re-arranging the date? And in terms of rearranging your "honeymoon" away from home/work?You and your son are a "package" now, and so of course it is natural to want to enjoy this opportunity for a new happiness with your man. If you are worried about your sister not approving of your new man, and postponing the wedding date is logistically difficult for you, perhaps you can find a way that would allow you you to introduce him to your sister, either via web-cam, or spend a weekend at her place (all three of you, if you can afford it). And of course, spend at least an hour every evening - either chatting online or on the phone. So that you can fill her in on your new happiness. If you two are close, and she loves you dearly, I'm sure she will understand that you have your own life to live, and that only you can make your happiness. Good luck, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!Cat
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