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writes:My fiance and I are getting married in a few weeks. Everything's been great, until a couple weeks ago. I started sensing something was off with him, so I brought it up. He explained everything's fine and normal, but my instinct is feeling like he's keeping something from me, and I don't know what. I decided to look into the web history and noticed it was recently deleted (which is not common practice with him...we share the same ipad). I know it's got nothing to do with porn. (He never hides that he looks at porn, and we often do together.) Something makes me think it's something to do with his work email. He's been checking his work email often, even on weekends, which isn't typical. I brought that issue up to him and he said he's been very busy with work. He's been very assuring to me that nothing's going on, that he would never cheat on me, and that I'm just being overly sensitive. I try to put everything to rest and trust what he says, but a few days later, I get that feeling again. I just want it to go away, or for some resolution to surface that explains it. I don't think it's cold feet; otherwise, our relationship is going well. What should I do to resolve this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2012): Basic common sense often runs out the door when you’re stressed. Relax, breathe, sit back and allow yourself time to think.
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reader, Diligence +, writes (28 September 2012):
 Just a thought, but make sure you're not getting cold feet... ;) Make sure this is what YOU really want to do. If you aren't having jitters about getting married, you're almost superhuman! If you think all this through and still believe it's something with him, don't let him off the hook easily till you're satisfied that you have all your questions answered. No sense in starting a marriage with anything "hidden" in the back of your (or his) mind. If open talk isn't happening now, it sure won't happen after the "I DO." See this through for your own piece of mind. I know I wouldn't get hitched if something was looming large in the back of my mind.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 September 2012):
 I would ALWAYS encourage a woman to trust her instincts more than "the facts" (as laid out by a man who will be affected by those "facts")....
The good thing is.... you can cancel or postpone your wedding at the "drop of a hat".... and NOT plunge in to a marriage that may be a disastere, UNTIL and UNLESS YOU are satisfied that you are marrying an honorable man...
Take your time....
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (28 September 2012):
I use an ipod touch for everything I do online.
After awhile, i've noticed that if I do not clear the history, the cookies and cache under Safari's settings AND the website data (under the advanced tab), Safari will crash more and more frequently until I do clear everything.
Why delete the history if he could just use the private browsing setting?
If you feel like something is going on, you need to try and get him to address the issue openly and honestly before you get married.
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