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writes:ive been with my partner for 3 years we have 2 kids and are getting married next year.he is 39 and im 22. he only wants to sleep with me when he wants. one minute he will be all over me then next minute he will be distanced.i love him but i dont how i feel anymore.can u help me Reply to this Question
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (8 August 2007):
Yes, talk it over with him before jumping into marriage. This is why divorce rates are so high now with a lot of short term marriages. Either people aren't actually taking time to get to know each other or they aren't addressing what needs to be addressed before they do it. It's obvious that some only do it because they are at "that age" where they are told they should be married or because they are having regular sex. I'm not saying that is what is happening here, but it might be the beginning of that. You might also be having cold feet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): When a man seems distant, unexpressive, moody, cool, confusing and is not sharing or giving of himself freely to you, in a relationship...then all I have to say, he has detached. You need to talk to him and make your feelings known to him. Don't confront, don't get over analytical, don't overwhelm. Say it clearly and to the point.. Just find out why he's doing this. Communicate and share your deepest feelings and concerns love with this man. It's time for honesty and clarity. And if you can't get him to be forthcoming...get into couple counseling and have a professional help you both mend, whatever it is, that has caused him to do this. Do this quickly. You have two wonderful kids, depending on both of you to stay loving with each other and to keeping this family intact. And that means 'hashing this issue out' before the damage gets so great, that the lives devastated from an untimely split, will be felt and it will be too late. As for the marriage plans..best to rethink it all and work this problem out before you marry, because it sounds like to me...he's drifting and he's not telling you why. Good luck, sweety and be strong.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Whatever you do, don't get married. You may find yourself in the awkward position of paying him alimony if you are the one making the larger bucks in this relationship.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Ask him what his deal is. Maybe you need a break from each other some how to see how you do feel about him.
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