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writes:My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 months now. We are each other's first bf/gf. It's been going fine, but she likes this guy more than me, but the guy liked her for a bit but is now going out with a different girl. My girlfriend is always sad now and upset, and wants to stop our relationship because then she won't "hurt me" or anything. But it really hurts more if she leaves, and there is nothing she can do about her feelings because the guy is taken. I really love my girlfriend, and I want to know what to do. I don't want to lose her. Reply to this Question
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (10 April 2007):
 It won't help much, but you are at a time of life when people change very rapidly. That's why relationships shift so quickly from one person to another. Your girlfriend's other guy has moved on, but she's still stuck on him, and apparently you're her second choice.
Two options here. Since it's unlikely that Mr.X will be coming back to your girl any time soon, you can stay with this girl and be satisfied with being her current guy, even though you know there is a guy she'd rather be with. Or you can cut your losses, break up with her, and start looking for someone else who will be more interested in just you.
Notice I didn't say that there was a third option to magically get this girl to fall madly in love with just you and forget about the other guy entirely. There's no known way to get that to happen, so stop worrying about it. It's possible that if you do stay together for a time she might begin to forget about her ex, but I wouldn't count on it.
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