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writes:Hello, I've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over a year...and despite that, we haven't really been able to get the whole 'kissing' thing right...for example, our goodbye kisses are often nervous, rushed and awkward. Neither him or me really know how to go about it...is there anything we can do/try to make it easier and actually work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Everyone has had what I think is great advice to offerLet me offer a teensy bit more1) Relax with your kisses. Enjoy it and if it's funny laugh together. My boyfriend and I are seasoned kissers and we still often bump each other on the nose or less often: miss. And it has us rolling around on the floor with laughter. If you can relax a bit more and see the humour **together** (v important) then maybe you'll relax into it a bit more and it will come naturally.2) its a natural act so let instinct take over and don't charge into it trying to be totally overwhelmingly in control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFOr those who think it's odd for a yearlong relay and all: We've yet to be comfortably alone (situational complications)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): Hi there. I think you should both relax more. I think what is making things awkward is the tension in the build-up to the kiss when you are both probably thinking 'this is not going to be great' It's odd that after a year together you still have rushed awkward kisses.
My advice is first you both need to make plenty of eye contact with each other. That way you will be able to 'read' when the other is ready for that kiss. When you are ready, start to move in toward him keeping the eye contact but then glancing at his lips, then back to his eyes and then to his lips. Keep doing this until your lips meet then give him a soft no-tongue kiss. Hopefully this will lead to another more lingering kiss!
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): All you can do is experiment with eachother.. make eye contact with eachother then approach for a kiss have your hands on your patners body e.g. hips or face and then kiss gently and pull away slowely once you can both do that then you can get into heavier and more intesne kissing you could always look over the internet as well for step by ateps so that you can kiss eachother perfectley
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): kissing really should be something that you two enjoy, try just holding each other close and focus more on kissing each others lips pasionatly, take your time with each kiss and dont give in to any nerves or feeling awkward. Oh and dont feel like you have to stick your tongue down each others throat all the time either because if your both not in a "rhythm" and know what your doing its just bad.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (11 April 2010):
Check out kissing on YouTube. There are quite a few videos on there to give you tips on how to do it.Once you've both watched some videos together and got some practice in, I'm sure you will both become great kissers for each other!
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