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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:The head tells you to leave a married man while the heart doesnt. I started an affairs since this May. We both married, he with 2 kids and I dont have any. We have been classmates (part time study)for 1 year and suddenly he wrote the mail and said he liked or loved me. A bit out of curiosity and also attracted by his tenderness, i went dinner with him. Yet, the second dinner, we started to cuddle and kissed in hill top not until a passer-by found us. The third time again and eventually, we booked a hotel room. To make things worse, his wife spotted us on that evening and shouted a bit, then left. Early bext morning, she came back with her daughter and banged the door. These 2 times, I hid myself in bathroom; but she pretty sure i was there.I havent left him; but instead still going with him to hill tops, just kidding, cuddle and fondling. What should i do? Why am i so silly to believe that he will leave his wife when his kids go to University? I feel inferior and act like a girl on call when he asks me to hill top. I m also afraid to be found by my husband at the end. I m at 40 while he is 50. Why should i act so stupid and why does he cheat? Pls tell me what I should do? Is he honest_ he switches off phone and logs out from PC whenever he wants to. I admit that i m a bit desperate in my marriage yet it is painful for the past few weeks. Bittersweet !
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): You should get out now while you can, you can end up falling in love with him and end up having to deal with heartache, longing for him, wondering what he's up to, while he goes about his life. We provide support for this very topic at http://www.the-other-woman.com
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 You ARE a girl on call. As long as you choose to behave in this manner you'd best prepare for the consequences. Life without honor and integrity is just plain miserable.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 hello
i think the answer to why he cheat must be the answer you can give to why you cheat.
your circumstance is one of those that we have to listen to our heads not the heart. the heart doesnt have brain all it does is love love love or hate hate hate, thats why when our head says no you must stop. try to solve the problems in your marriage by communicating with your husband and not by cheating on him.
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