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female
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30-35,
*ammychaps
writes:Okay, so lets give you some brief history, i'm going to keep it vague just in case he ever stumbles on this!So I joined a music group about 4 years ago now, and I've had a crush on this guy (lets call him Jack) every time I'm in a room with him I get tense.I try not to look at him but naturally gaze over more than I should, and inside I get excited that he's there, no matter how hard I try so suppress my feelings. I get all giddy and silly around him and i'm in my 20's...yes, i know, - as is he. I've managed to contain my secret for so long because (here's the fun part) we're both in relationships (long ones). Now I love my bf so much I never think anything could jeopardise us, but when I see this "Jack" or I'm around him, alone with him, hearing about him, I just loose my train if thought no matter how much I try to concentrate on something else, my heart gets quicker, I become more self conscious and I only think of him. It's actually really annoying because I don't want to like him, but these feelings are getting stronger the more we chat and get to know each other. I think he flirts sometimes (I think) and when he does its mean immature flirting like "you're so ugly", playfully pushing me. I'm not ugly, I have my insecurities but I'm definitely not ugly, so he must only mean it in a flirty way right? Like he wants my attention but he's in a relationship so can't take it too far? He's also complimented me a couple of times saying i'm petite, that i've looked hot (once he's said that) and a few others here and there, but nothing to give away that he may like me. He can be really thoughtful too, by bringing my drink in the room if i've forgotten it and little things like that. I think it's sexual tension, and we also think in the same way, like we'll get up to do things at the same time, we'll write something at the same time, but there's this wall up from both sides knowing we can't say this or we can't say that, just in case we over step the line and it becomes weird. Anyway I've tried forgetting about him as there's nothing I can do about it, I wish i didn't like him but he's in my head like a normal crush always is, as much as my boyfriend is...and I can't get away from him, as we have a music project on our hands, which I can't give up.So do you guys think he likes me or not? Or just a friend that I jam with who couldn't care less?Or any useful tips on forgetting about him when I'm with him..(Really hard) and trust me, I've tried focussing on the negatives...I guess I just want to know, because I do, it'll make me happier if I do know either way, so I can just get on with my life!HELP x
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reader, R1 +, writes (4 January 2013):
 He might fancy you, people are still attracted to good looking people when they are in a relationship. This doesn't mean he would act on it though or consider leaving his current relationship... If you want to stay with your boyfriend try and cut out the flirting and focus on your relationship.
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