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We're a bit rocky right now, I'm not sure where to go with our relationship

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Question - (4 May 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 6 May 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *yDaysOnceRevolvedAroundYou writes:

I'm in love with a guy who's ten years my senior, in my mind I'm a lot older than seventeen however, I know you'll all think I'm just young, but I've been through so much in my life that I've grown up a lot faster than boys my own age.

So, I met a guy who lives just over half an hour away on the train, I've met his family and a selection of his friends and work colleagues. We spend every weekend together and I really enjoy his company.

But the thing is, we argue constantly there's a trust problem because he thinks I'm young and I won't be serious enough for him.. As well as us living further apart. But I think it's unfair because I put my faith in him and he can go out and get drunk as well, which gives him much more opportunities to go out and pull behind my back, but I still trust him.

We've totally ended our relationship at the moment, well I did because he questioned whether or not I'd been sleeping around, which he knows is completely against my morals after being in an abusive relationship when I was younger.

So, obvious touchy subject when it comes to me.. Since then he's spent the night with another girl, and 100% denies doing anything other than kissing because it didn't feel right.. So we argued over this too because I don't know whether to believe it or not now.

He's begged me back, says he loves me.. And has invited me over this weekend. But the question is, should I go or is it not worth my time?

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (6 May 2012):

tennisstar88 agony auntNo offense, but you're a bit naive. And that's ok, because you are still a teenager who has very little dating experience when it comes to men. I've been there too.

Now, a 26/27 year old claims he was just kissing another woman?? And he didn't go any further because it wasn't right? Well it wasn't right when he kissed her!

I'm sorry but that's a line of bullshit. A 26/27 yr old is going to take it a lot further than a make out session.

This guy is taking advantage of your naiveness and you're buying into his lies. If he loved you then why did he cheat on you? Also, if he was that serious about you, then there would be no arguments about the credibility of your relationship. He's not serious about you, you're much too young. Essentially, he's having fun with you because he doesn't want to settle down. Nor can he get a woman his own age.

Overall, this guy isn't worth your time...at all.

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