A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've had a falling out with one of my close friends. Well I'm not sure, the other night me and her went out and I guy who I know was there too. Me and this guy always text and stuff and that night we kissed. Anyway at the end of the evening I told my friend I'm going back to his, she thought it wasn't a good idea so I said I wouldn't go. She dropped me home, but then I decided to go anyway. I told her, she wasn't pleased, and since then she hasn't spoke to me. I've apologised but no reply from her. I think she is being over the top about the situation to be honest but I don't want to loose her as a friend, she's one of a few I have. What can I do? :(
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reader, Abella  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 It is none of her business who you spend your time with. What does she have against this guy? Is there something about him that she knows and is not telling you?
Her behaviour sounds controlling. She does not own you and she should not be calling the shots on who you see and when.
I suggest you allow her a little time to cool her heels but do not let it go on too long or you may temporarily or permanently lose her as a friend.
Has she tried to be controlling in other ways? Does she tell you what to wear, how to do your hair, what clothes to buy and where to go?
What exactly were you apologizing for? You did not do anything wrong. You simply changed your mind. Since when is that a crime? Or a friendship breaker?
Sure you do not want to lose her as a friend. Can she perhaps come to see that you love her as a friend but that some decisions are yours to make and not hers to veto.
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