A
female
age
36-40,
*izzyb
writes:I've been dating my bf for 2.5 years and we just broke up. We broke up because we're in transitioning phases of our lives- leaving uni, he's going to medicine and going away for two months and i'm trying to get a job interstate and we've both been under alot of stress which has led us both to take out our stresses on each other. It's been a horrible month of just confusion and stress and misunderstanding on both our parts and we broke up on Wednesday- he said he was confused so I said I had to let him go to figure out why and because the first year of med is supposed to be hell. Anyways we agreed to see one another before he goes away and so the break up wouldn't be on the phone. We met up yesterday and had the best day ever. We hugged and kissed and said how much we loved one another, we went to lunch and had icecream in the park and talked about everything and just lay down and cuddled on the grass, just forgetting everything. We laughed about everything and cried because it wasn't fair that we met so young and because we loved one another so much. A couple in our group are going through the same sort of situation- stress about next year and not having time for one another etc so my bf suggested we set a good example for them and get back together. But I said no because you're still confused and still have doubts in your head. He told me that he missed me and loved me so much and just cuddled me. I don't think I've ever seen him so happy. I suggested we have a year off and he said he didn't want to be without me that long and he wanted to have alot of Lizzy in his life next year. While we had broken up last Wed he hadn't changed the pic of us as his phone background, taken away the photos or the teddy bears or my toothbrush, and was still writing i love you in the steam on the shower because that's what he always did. I love him so much and he loves me so much too but our lives are going to be so complicated. It's so not fair sometimes when you meet the right person at the wrong time. He said in the book of his life he saw me in the pages before and in the ones after and he wanted to skim all the ones in between and I agreed. But we just make one another so happy when we're away from it all. I just wanted to lay on the grass forever because as soon as we stood up it got complicated again. It's like that song 'if i lay here, would you lie with me and just forget the world' lol. We talked about getting back together but I know how worried he is about next year and says he's got to figure out why he's been pushing away the best thing that ever happened to him the last month. He's going away in a week so I suggested that we have another day like this when he got home and figured it out from there. After he left he wrote me a message saying 'thanks for the most perfect day. I love you and I want to be the man of your dreams.' Idealistically I'd like to take a year off to do what i have to do and what he has to do and then come back but that's totally unrealistic. He said he'd still be there though. I love him so much, were so happy when we're together but we've both got such a long road ahead of us filled with stress and possibly relocation. Life's not fair sometimes. It's hard to know what to do.
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