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writes:I met this girl one year back when we were both in separate relationships. We started flirting few months back and talking almost daily. We even teased each other about being married to each other because we have got into several tiffs over time. About a month back, I felt like I had developed 'feelings' for her. I confessed to her when we talked once, and she was not surprised to learn that. As we are both in relationships we agreed that I should work on trivialising these feelings. I also asked her if she had the same feelings and she said 'no'. This was about a month or so back. Since then we teased each other about other potential gfs and bfs for each other and I thought that everything was going to plan as I had started feeling lesser and lesser about her 'that' way.Cut forward to day before, and I hadn't called her or txtd for few days (3-4 days), she turned around and said to me out of the blue that I call her only when I am bored or have nothing else to do. Now reality is that I gave her time and attention even when I was busy. I told her today that sometimes people get busy as I had, and that she herself was busy as well many times as well. I suspect she didn't take kindly to that comment and proceeded to tell me that she would be busy now as well, and not to talk for next 2 weeks. It makes no sense to me that in our relationship, where we are just friends, this sort of weird expectancy that I should call all the time and if I don't call, subjecting me to this sort of treatment. Heck, even my actual gf wudnt do this to me, and neither have any of my previous gfs. I guess there is two reasons, either she loves me and doesn't want to realise or knows and doesn't want to tell, or she is just playing mindgames with me. We are not teenagers and this behaviour is ok if ur 16, but not in ur 30s. Please advise, I am lost, I feel sad, angry, and tenderness even because she doesn't know what she is doing.There is a parallel track that is relevant that my partner and she don't like each other, and she has seen some of my partners flaws, which she is working on, but it hasn't stopped her from telling me few times that I deserve better and that I should leave her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): From author - is that it? 1 answer? Thanks to the person that commented.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): she probably just wants you all to herself and doesn't want to admit to it...
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