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writes:My ex and i have been broken up for 6 months. Since she broke up with me I took it a lot harder than her. We were together for over 4 years so i knew this was going to be a process. The thing is, it's been six months. i would have thought that by now id be over this. Recently i discovered that she's dating an old friend. In my opinion he's a major step down from me. I mean she even said when we were together that the guy was a loser, and now she's dating him. I haven't been able to meet anyone and so now i think that i never will. I know this is ridiculous but i just can't help think it. Is this normal, i mean six months is a long time and i should be over this. Especially after she acts like i don't even exist.
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reader, southernboy +, writes (11 May 2009):
southernboy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Guys. Good advice. The reason we never got married is because she was still in school. (just about to finish) but nonetheless you are right. Unfortunately in this economy it is too hard to move or change jobs, but i have ridded myself of all her belongings. I guess all that's left is our mutual friends that i see every now and again, and i tell them to NOT give me updates about her.
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reader, jake75 +, writes (11 May 2009):
Moving on can be hard if you are still in love. I was in love with a woman for 10 years without any return. Now she's back and wants to get married and I learn about her life and how she moved on and I didn't. And you know what, I was stupid! She moved on. And clearly your ex did also. Don't rack your brain about why she is with someone she told you she thought was a loser. The woman I loved in vain for so long now has all kinds of crazy ex's and I will never understand why she ditched me for them. Trust me, you will only drive yourself crazy while she is out there enjoying life. Don't think about how pretty they were or the fun things you did together, instead think about how they stomped on your heart! and how you are better than that! sometimes changing your lifestyle can help. Hang out at new places, get a new place that doesn't have the memories, new job. anything to shake it up a bit so you don't dwell all day.
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reader, philipgifts +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Ofcouce you took it harder the one to brake things off first generaly takes it better than the other person. Don't even weary about what she's up to disconect from her. Loose her phone number and anyway to contact her. Change your number so it doesn't give her the chance to try and recrendel your r/ship and find out it wont work out again, key word disconect. Six months isn't that long give it time a year or longer. I'm not saying put your life on hold, its just going to take time. Date new people and don't think about her, even if your looking right at her think of something els. Don't talk to her, avoid her, her bf, and some of her friends she hangs out with a lot. You would have thought if she was the one after four years you would have married her, you didn't so thats one example why you guys shouldn't be together. There are so many single girls out there, I'm sure another girl out there is the one for you, look for one be social, you can meet a girl anywhere, shopping,beach,coffee house,chuch,or some other social gathering. If you want to chat click on this and it will leank up to my column.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (11 May 2009):
 You will get over it when you are ready. It took me a year to get over someone once and I think it's because I really loved her. You probably really loved this girl too. All I can say is to try and emerse yourself into other areas of your life. Try making yourself better.
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