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writes:So My current best friend and I dated for almost 3 months (october-december) and we broke up in January. Our relationship was AMAZING. I thought everything was perfect, like it was the first time I felt someone had liked me just as much as I liked them. We are perfect for eachother. He told me he broke up with me because he just woke up one morning and didn't like me like that. His friends said he does that a lot so I shouldnt take it personally. He said he wanted to be friends and so I'm like yeah I'll try, but by the end of the week I saw the differences in his behavior twards me and I couldnt handle it so I told him we couldnt be friends anymore on that friday. The next monday I walked into school and he looked like someone had DIED. I was really worried and so I gave in and went to ask what was wrong and he told me it was because we wernt talking anymore so I gave in and decided to try and be friends with him.For the next 2 to 3 weeks he was gradually starting showing signs of him liking me again and so I had to talk to him about it and he told me he was 'remembering what it's like to be with me' and thats why he was acting that way.After that talk I stopped flirting with him as much as I could and he started giving me only friendship vibes. I mean, occasionally he would do something that made me wonder you know? But I would dismiss it as 'remembering' and move on.But this past month I've been noticing it left and right. It happens all the time. Right now I feel like I need to like knock on his head and be like " are you for serious right now? Do you need to tell me something!?!?". I had a coversation with him a couple days ago because he kept on flaking out on our plans to hang out and he told me he was scared that I was going to try something on him and he was scared it would feel wrong hanging out side of school and not being together. I was trying to figure out where his head was and so I asked him what went on in his head when he thought about me, and he was just like I dont feel comfortable telling you that and he wouldnt tell me so I gave up. I told him I think he could like me but he just wont admit it to himself, but before I could even finish my sentence he immediately said no, like instantly. To me that either means hes into me and he's in denial about it or he just really doesnt. I also told him that he couldnt be afraid of what could happen between us and if its going to happen its going to happen, and if it doesnt, it doesnt if we hang out" and he was like " I dont think it should happen. I honestly dont think it will, and I know that hurts you and I'm sorry" I just kept on telling him this was about our friendship and he shouldnt be scared. But that doesnt explain everything hes been doing. Hes been messaging/texting me every day. Sometimes it would be 2 or 3 messages. Hes always spending his morning/lunch/after school time with me. He's always hangin around me and always glancing at me at school. Then he always is the one to hug me. After class we talk for like a minute or two and hes like " okay I gotta go to class" and I'm like okay and I stand there for like two seconds and start to walk away and he is just like HUG ME and he hugs me and he smiles and walks away.Then today I had him over at my house for the first time since we broke up. IT WAS INSANE!I felt like everything was just right. We were really close, like knee touching close since we were playing guitar. His chest and knee was facing me and he was smiling at me like a dumbass. His voice was also very smooth and deep. at this point I have NO IDEA what to do.ALL of my friends say he likes me and my best friend is like " Hes retarded, hes trying to cover up the obvious".But to make this worse,His first love is still in the picture. They broke up a year ago because she moved away. I told him he needs to talk to her and get closure, he tells me every time " She was my everything" and just excuses not to. And monday they had a conversation and they admitted they still liked each other.So, what do you guys think?Does he really like me?What should I do about this if he does and he wont admit it?WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): Are his parents involved? sounds to me like he's trying to self sabotage the relationship. maybe because he feels that he doesn't deserve you? maybe the idea of you getting back together is just outside of his reality right now. it sounds like you deserve a answer from him if you want to get back together. and don't get pregnant :D
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