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writes: My live-in boyfriend of 6 yrs whom I'd just bought a flat with broke up with me a month ago. We were planning our future together (mariage, kids etc) but both felt we didn't want it yet but in time. Then he broke up with me and has moved out but hardly taken any of his stuff so the flat looks like he's still here and in my heart even though I'm hurting I still love him deeply. Everyone tells me to be strong and forget about him because he is hurting me so much and I'm acting strong but inside I'm devastated and cant understand why one minute we were planning our future and the next he's left because he cant see that future working out for us and he doesn't want to leave me when we're married or are parents instead. I've written him letters and texts asking why he doesn't think we'll have a good future together but he says he cant say anymore and I must just accept it's over! After 6 years I cant accept it's all gone just like that especially as he says he still loves, cares and fancies me! I was strong over the weekend and stopped myself contacting him then he phoned last night to arrange to meet up to discuss the flat etc but when he heard I'd been out clubbing he said he didn't want to know if I'd met any men cos he'd get jealous! I feel in my heart we should be together but what should I now do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): First things first you need to get him to get his stuff from the flat. He is using that to stop you from getting over him.
There is no way you can even attempt to get over him unless you get rid of his stuff. He is manipulating you by keeping it there, and the phone call incident backs this up. If he has left you, won't say why, and is mentioning you being with other guys, I'd suggest that he has probably seen other people since you.
He's told you to accept it's over. I think you should do it.
Be strong, get his stuff out of your life and move on. Lean on your friends, listen to their advice and try and do things to enjoy yourself and take your mind off him.
Be careful though, it sounds to me that as soon as you show signs that you are getting over him, he'll come back.
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