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writes:Since I was ten, me and this guy were good friends. Him and me always got on great. Although nothing ever happened, there was always something between us. He had feelings for me, and they were reciprocal, even though I never admitted it to him. When we left school we began to lose touch, although he sent me the most lovely messages when my father passed away. We haven't spoken for a long time, but he'd always wave when he drove past me in the car. I am engaged to someone I love very much and he is with a lovely girl who I met on a hairdressing course last year.However, I have recently started a new college, and was pleasantly surprised to see him, and I greeted him with a friendly smile and said hello. I did not expect his reaction. Instead of greeting me the same, he just looked shocked and rather dumbfounded to see me, and just said hi and walked on. I have seen him a few times since, and he just puts his head down and at best, gives me a wry smile. I was walking down the corridor the other day, and his friends and he were gathered round, waiting to go in a classroom, and they all started wolf whistling at me, which pissed me off. I just don't get why he is being like this. I don't know what I could possibly have done to upset him! I really cared about him, and we were never on bad terms with each other. Plus, I got on well with his new girlfriend, so there were certainly no hard feelings on that score. What do you guys think? I am really hurt that he is giving me the cold shoulder. I thought we could have stayed friends. I know it seems petty, but it has geneuinely upset me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2014): Maybe you did something without realizing it? I think his behavior is weird, and it seems like he would understand how much it hurt you. But, people can be clueless sometimes.
You have two choices... either try to talk to him, or write him off. I think that you need closure because this is bugging you. Why don't you try talking to him? He has obviously moved on with his life romantically but there is nothing wrong with having INNOCENT FRIENDSHIPS. Make it clear to him that that's all you want.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (8 September 2014):
 People change, simple as that. As we mature (or not as the case may be) we change, alter, adapt and become different people with different personalities.
Mark
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 September 2014):
 Maybe you remind him of the shy and awkward kid he used to be. Or he thinks THAT is how you see him.
I don't think he is out to hurt your feelings, more protect his own. If that makes sense.
Honestly, I'd leave him be. He doesn't seem interested in rekindling anything with you.
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