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writes:Hi me and my gf have been going out secretly for a few months now and we really want to tell her mum and dad except she would rather we tell her mum when shes on her own as shes mainly concerned about what she thinks and then let her tell her dad. Thing is we don't really know how to do it, me and her mum get along great as we have known each other since we were little and i'm over there alot. Shes always been nice to me and knows that me and my mum don't get on and knows the in's and out's of that and has always been there for me. Now my mum doesn't know about us and i'm not telling her yet as she would be bothered and i try not to communicate with her if possible as we both hate each other, i'm not gonna go into any further detail about me and my mum but theres no way we'll ever be ok with each other and i hardly have anything to do with her now so please don't tell me to try and sort things out as we hate each toher and she was the reason my dad killed himself when i was 4. Anyway we are both really nervous its not that we think she won't let us see each other anymore because we get along great and she knows me very well and that i would never hurt her. Theres apart of us that thinks she may have an idea of the fact that we have ben abit more than just good friends and we have been getting alot closer really. So what do we say and how do we tell her? my gf is really nervous about this and i can't say its the most relaxing thing i've got to do but hey its gotta be done.her mum has always been nervous and a little over protective of her when she was growing up because of her having a bf and getting hurt biut not over protective as in she wasn't allowed out cuz she was she just didn't want her to be hurt. Can any of you help? Reply to this Question
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reader, love-him +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Hey i aint gona tell u to sort it out with her, because you have already made up your mind. sorry to hear about ur dad x x x when ur g/f tells her mum are u going to be around? I dont realy see there should be a problem with telling her mum, how old are you and her? Maybe you and your g/f could make her mum a meal and then her mum would probs figure it out.. mail me if u wanna talk x x x x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (3 July 2007):
 From what you have said it sounds as though you are worrying a little too much, as you have said you get on well with her mum and she has always been there for you, so she will probably be quite cool with the idea.
She would probably have more of a problem if she did not know anything about you as we all naturally worry about our children and their relationships.
When it comes to telling her, can you and your girlfriend maybe take her out for lunch or something and just come right out and say it, just tell her that you have become very close and you thought she should know as you both care about her dearly and feel that she deserves that respect.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): hey i wrote this question and i was just readin it and realised that i put my mum wud be bothered i ment she wouldnt but please realy don't mention anything about sort it out as i have reasons for why i want nothing to do with her but i will tell her ast some point. Just thought id put this so that you undertsand.
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