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26-29,
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writes:Hey guys okay so I have an important question. My ex girlfriend and Iwwere forced to break up she had her phone taken away and this happened almost 2 months ago and we were pretty upset and we both said we won't give up on eachother at the time of the break up she was 16 and I was 18 and she got her phone back but Idk if she is not allowed to text me or what but she basically refused to get her phone back until she could talk to me but apparently she got her phone back and she seems happy I haven't seen her since the break up and it hurts going from being close to barely knowing eachother we start school in August and when I see her I won't know what I should do like avoid her or talk to her because her brother might tell on her if she talks to me worse part is I even had dreams of getting back with her like 3 times a week so can I please get suggestions and or advice on what to do Thank you for the help.
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reader, berryblaster  +, writes (10 August 2016):
I know how it feels to be forced to break up. My parents made me break up with my boyfriend and we were upset about it. He dtarted being horrible to me and it put me off him completely. She may want to get with you but when you have strict parents its hard because all you do is get screamed at and phone taken off you. Dont worry about it. Try to think about somethig else instead of her. Its okay to be upset
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (20 July 2016):
 The thought going through my mind is how often will you see her and her tattle tale little brother when you are at University and they are in Highschool? So there must be something I'm missing.
My complete theory of high school dating for guys is "Date Senior Girls". Their older boyfriends have dumped them and the boys in their class are trying to date sophomores. They are experienced, unattached, and not looking for a long term drama. You are almost out of time for a summer fling with a girl from a neighboring school. Stop moping over this loss and find a girl your age.
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reader, leo1  +, writes (20 July 2016):
 Just be your self and take it slow, every thing will go back to normal as time goes by.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2016): It sounds like an excuse. If she really did want to remain close to you, she would. Shake this one off as a learning experience, gather up the fragments of your ego and listen closely: showing your broken heart and/or affection to this girl will only make her dislike you. The only thing you can do is to convince yourself that you don't need her (you don't), and that you simply don't care. Don't be resentful, don't be angry. Just understand that most often, it takes years to meet that one person who is a good match, where you both are attracted to each other on the same level. Her not getting back with you has NOTHING to do with your worth as a person and as a boyfriend. You are not a loser because she doesn't want you, but you will be if you don't let go. Move on, act happy (until you are happy) and keep your confidence high and things will all fall into place.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (20 July 2016):
 I'm assuming her parents weren't okay with a legal adult dating their minor daughter?
If she's not allowed to be your girlfriend, just be civil, but if she's not allowed to talk to you, then don't talk to her.
As for the dreams, leave them as that - this is new, so you're going to dream about it, but you don't need to be with her, so it'll fade.
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